Before you give me your thoughts, a bit more on the context on where this question is coming from: I was raised into thinking that when you are growing up you have to be a good student, honor your parents, get good grades, then later on have an education and skills, go to college, then get a good job, find yourself a good woman to later marry and have kids. I got to do all of that but the getting married and having kids part… and sometimes it makes me wonder.
I know this whole thing is like the conversation of the fight club, Taylor Durden was a MGTOW master

I am totally convinced that marriage is a scam, that all family and reproductive laws treat men as second class citizens and that definitely you shouldn’t make the purpose of your life on being a slave to please someone. The risk of failure and total misery vs the reward of having a happy family is way to high… but if you think about it, as bioligical mortal beings, sounds like main purpose is to reproduce before passing away, if you go your own way you won’t do that.  Plus having a world with 7+ billion people, I don’t think se should worry too much about the species survival, if anything the world is overpopulated.

So if reproducing is not in the cards, when you think about what is your purpose in life, what makes you keeps going, what are your personal answers? Is it to have a successful career? To travel the world? Tap all the pussy you can? Knowledge? Money? Just enjoy live? help others?
I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Cheers

Don’t worry about purpose.   It isn’t going to change anything even if you do find it.

Men pull their hair out trying to find purpose.  Then once they do, they still continue pulling their hair out trying to fulfill it.   Being alive is purpose enough.  Purpose doesn’t give meaning to life.  Life gave it to purpose.  I can guarantee you that if you do an in-depth study of older languages they had no word for “purpose” yet those men continued on.

Observe as much as you can.  Remember your actions have both observable and unobservable consequences.  Don’t get upset about it at all.  Don’t ignore it either.

My guess is the next post after this one, will be by some older gent who will tell you “to do what you love”.  This will probably be the standard response you will get.

That doesn’t make any sense to me at all. I am guessing they mean what gives you pleasure but I don’t know.  That is just me.

How do you find your purpose in life as a MGTOW?

For myself, it is trying to answer the question: Who or what am I?

One particular guru has a really good take on the issue, though. He’s LoGun from “The Attraction Institute”. In most ways, he’s a scammer just like the rest, preaching stuff like “get your inner game strong, and everything else will fall into place”. But I’ve never heard a better opinion on the topic of purpose.

He says that you can figure out your purpose by knowing your “script”. Your script has three parts:

1. How you feel now.

2. How you want to feel in the future.

3. What it takes to bridge the gap between #1 and #2.

Then #3 will determine your purpose. Super simple, and it dispenses with all the new-age nonsense about “what you were born to do”.

How do you find your purpose in life as a MGTOW?

You don’t “find” it. You CREATE it. Because there is no purpose in life for us otherwise. I’m one of a billion of sperm, and so are you. Could have just as easily been the next one. We’re all accidents, as sure as Earth is EXACTLY the right size / distance from the sun / has breathable air / the perfect amount of gravity / water and precisely the right chemical makeup to sustain life.

Tomorrow, either of use could slip on a banana peel and break our necks. Gone.
A meteor could come crashing through my windshield and it would be over.

I realized this a few years ago when I thought “I found a purpose” and began a new life in a new career in a new country. One day, a chief in the company was driving down the highway and a piece of metal (about the size of a license plate and 1 inch thick) came from nowhere … flew through his windshield and took his head right off. Shut down the freeway for a day, and made the news. Nobody could explain it. It didn’t come flying from a truck. It didn’t fall from an overpass. It remains a mystery.

Even though this didn’t “happen” to me, it just so happens that the company shut down immediately… and my “purpose” was gone. So now it was up to me to create a purpose.

We’ve all heard that “EAT / PRAY / LOVE” s~~~ women talk about. “Finding themselves”. Women are constantly talking about a need to “find themselves”. As if they don’t take any active role in their own lives. They actually initiate a divorce from a life of purpose (motherhood and being a wife) to “find themselves” as if they didn’t have a purpose already. Observe the way they talk about “love”. Same s~~~. (i.e. When will I FIND “love”? etc.)

But it’s important to stop talking about “finding” it, and start CREATING it.
Let women “find” themselves. Men CREATE themselves.

How do you find your purpose in life as a MGTOW?

Looking to find purpose is like waiting for things to happen to you. Tsunamis “happen”. Brain tumors “happen”. But creating a purpose doesn’t happen to you. You go out and MAKE it happen. I could go crush some ass and get her pregnant. BOOM! Now my “purpose” is to support that kid for the next 18 years. A lot of people let things happen to them and they unintentionally find themselves living a life they didn’t really want. That’s why taking an active role in your life is so important. I could have easily been a father TWICE already (or many more). But they only reason I am not, is because I was so focussed on it. Finding myself in situations were never really appealing to me. Creating it was a priority.

When you think about what is your purpose in life, what makes you keeps going

I’ve stopped weddings and saved men’s lives. That’s a good purpose. We created MGTOW.com. Another purpose.

what are your personal answers?

It’s not the answers that drive us. It’s the QUESTION.
You’ll notice I wouldn’t have written this all out if you didn’t ask.
And because you asked, you created a purpose for me to be here.

To travel the world?

I’ve done that. Had a job which took me across the world a few times. Created an opportunity for myself, and was offered the job. Again, I didn’t “find” my way there. I created it. Now the travel bug is out of me at a very early age.

Money?

Money is a huge motivator for me. The purpose of “finding” (or having) a job is to work so you can make enough money to do things you want to do when you’re not working. Read that last sentence again. The work is not the purpose. Do you live to work? Or do you work to LIVE.

But MGTOW.com doesn’t pay. At the moment, It rewards me in other intangible ways.
Thank you for asking the question.

Live to CREATE purpose, and CREATE myself, get on top of the game and take charge.

What does AFT want?  Whats best for me? Go for that.

I no longer accept “i need to find myself” as an acceptable statement. It’s lazy.

No. In the future, if I ever hear that from a female again I will tell her “It’s up to you to CREATE a purpose for yourself and stop behaving like a goddam lost fart in a thunderstorm’. I am tired of allowing women to get away with assuming no agency in their lives as if they are not active participants in it.

for me the biggest item is that I always been goal oriented, I always write down my goals, break them into smaller pieces and set up multi year goals… having finnished the college education, got a great job, done quite a bit of traveling… being struggling a bit lately on what to focus on next, now that I am basically not contemplating anymore the marriage and kids part.

I think it also happen to everyone that many times true happiness is during the process of working to achieve the goal and not so much when you have actually completed it

Being struggling a bit lately on what to focus on next

You mention multi-year goals. I just had an exchange with another member on that. I will leave this for you:

http://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/where-do-you-see-yourself-in-5-years/

You might be rewarded to not try and look for something to focus on, but rather to create opportunities for yourself wherever possible. Then, when an opportunity presents itself you are free to choose. We can easily say “Im gonna do this for the next 5 years”…… but that’s a form of tunnel vision and it can be too long between stops.

It simply mean you have a goal to accomplish

Whether said achievement grant you happiness or not depend on your innate desire

And not having a purpose also doesn’t guarantee you sadness

In the end, you life doesn’t need to be an epic saga

If it can’t be an exciting one, then a peaceful one serve you just fine