When I meet a woman for the first time, regardless of where it is… in a club, at a grocery store, online, through a friends friend via a ‘set up’… I always assume that they’re gold-diggers and my goal is to get sex out of them without spending too much $$$.

– So step one is always to set up a coffee date with them at a Starbucks closest to my apartment.

– I ALWAYS show up 10-20 minutes late so they’re forced to buy their own cup of coffee (again, the goal is to spend as little as possible);

– So I show up, buy my own coffee, chat for a bit, and we go for a walk. I make sure to tell her I have to pick up something at a grocery store so we’re forced to shop together… I feel like shopping as a couple makes the girl think that we have more of a relationship than just the first date that we have;

– We walk and chat for a while, the coffee shop is near my place so I make sure to have a reason to invite her over, to watch a show or something. And that’s where I go in for the kiss. I don’t ask, and I don’t come up with some cheesy line. Women want to know their men have b~~~~, so you have to dive in and go for it;

– 99% of the time, if they go into your apartment they welcome a make-out session;

– The VAST majority of the time the women will NOT have sex on the first date. They’ll feel like sluts otherwise. So you make sure to at least try to gently push for sex, but if she won’t allow if… you back off. You have to at least gently push for it to demonstrate to them that you think they’re sexy, and that you’re confident enough to think you deserve it. But again, at the first sign of resistance… you back off! You also want them to know that you’re confident that sex will happen eventually (you’re not in a rush for it).

– So the next day you set date number 2! Which was always dinner at my place 🙂  (remember, at this point I haven’t spent a dollar on her, and I’m going to be making my own dinner so why not invite her??). Have her over, make her a healthy dinner with wine. Eat dinner, go in for the kiss, and sex will more than likely happen that night.

– No $$$ spent, sex happens pretty quickly, and everybody wins. The only thing you have to worry about during that walk on date #1 is to make sure that she knows you love your family, you have a good job, and you’re a positive guy with great friends. Those are the things that women want in a dude essentially.

If a girl will only go out with you on the first date for dinner… avoid her like the plague! She’s a gold digger and is just looking for a free meal… a normal girl will want coffee, in her mind if you’re a freak she can always just pretend to have to leave in the middle of coffee for some BS reasons. Coffee dates give her a lot of comfort if things don’t work out.

Oh! And another thing I’ve noticed about women. If you meet them at a club, walk up to them and say “Hi, I noticed you from across the room, I thought you were cute and I wanted to say hello.” Even the coldest, most miserable bitch will appreciate your honesty and be open to a conversation.

Anyhow… this is just snapshot of my approach to dating women, wanting sex, and not spending too much money on them. If you want more details please let me know. I’ve failed so many times over, that over the years I’ve slowly developed a process to make sure I get laid quickly, and easily. I have more tips if you’re interested. Remember you always want to keep at least 4 women “on the go” at all times.

I posted this because it breaks my heart to see good men, spend a lot of money on women and get nothing in return.

Happy hunting gentlemen 🙂

However, I’d be worried about her knowing where I live ….. coz of the nutter woman thing. Banging on your door at 3am.

The rest is very interesting and I believe has merit.

There just might be a book in the making ☺

Regarding the insanity that most women seem to possess (which is what I think you’re referring to)… I’ve noticed that almost all women are amazing at their ‘two-facedness’. They can be incredible at hiding their insane tendencies for at least 5 dates… after that 5th date the craziness starts to rear it’s ugly head dramatically!  I was with this chick one time and I lost count of how many dates we’d been on (rookie mistake). She lived about 4 hours from me, so I was trapped at her house at 2am when all of a sudden she sits upright in bed and says “YOU DON’T MAKE ME FEEL SPECIAL… AND I DON’T LIKE SWALLOWING.”  I had no place to go so I was forced to appease her bulls~~~ until the next morning when I could get the hell out of there! Needless to say that was the last time I ever spoke to her.  So keep that in mind, the 5th date is a real turning point for them, that’s when they feel you’re getting committed into ‘serious boyfriend territory’. And the craziness really starts to show up! I remember going on a date with another gal, I’d already slept with her a few times but again… lost track of the dates, dammit! Her phone was on the table and I noticed a text from her friend “Wow  this is the 5th date! It’s getting serious!”… D’OH!  On the 6th date she started being very disrespectful to me (the craziness!), so again… never talked to her after that  🙂

If you keep the ‘relationship’ under 5 dates, in the woman’s mind you’re still in ‘casual dating territory’. So she WILL NOT CALL YOU! It’s your job as the man to pursue her in the courting process… so don’t do it!  Here’s my process from start to finish:

– Meet her, get phone number;

– Go for coffee, show up late;

– Go for a walk, be a chatterbox say how amazing your family/friends/job is/are, go to grocery store;

– Back to my place “to chill out for a bit”…have a make-out session;

– Date #2, make her dinner, have wine, have sex;

– Date #3… who cares as long as it ends up at my apartment again for more sex. Or her apartment.

– Date #4… doesn’t happen as I never call her again. And because it was so casual, she never calls me.

– Everybody wins.

I always try to make sure I have at least 4 ladies ‘on the go’ within that 4 date maximum. When you drop one off the list, make sure to replace her with another.

Like everything in life, sometimes everything is going well… but sometimes you hit a dry patch 🙁   What I do in these situations is I pick out one gal I’ve dated, where the sex was great and she was a little dumb, and I text her… “Hey Ms. Y, I don’t want to come across like a whiner, and that’s fine if you’re not interested in me. But I was just curious as to why you never returned my text? Anyhow, if I don’t hear from you it was really nice getting to know you.” This makes her think that it was a misunderstanding, or that she accidentally made a mistake in the courting process.  This works like a CHARM! Every time they’ve come over to my place and we’ve had sex that night. I’ve shared this with a few buddies and it’s worked really well for them too!

Anyhow… once again I’ve developed this through a TON of trial-and-error… I think I’ve made every mistake possible with women until I found something that worked. So if this is second nature to you I apologize for being “Captain Obvious”. But I like to think it’ll help a few of you fine gents  🙂

If you get that rare bird that starts getting too attached within that 5 date time frame, or if you lose track of how many you’ve been on like I’ve done a number of times. Here’s how you get her to go away, text her this:

“Hey Ms. Y, I really hate to do this to you but a woman from my past is back in my life and we’ve become very serious.  This is the last thing I expected to happen, but I’m really excited about my future with her. I’m really sorry.”.

For some reason women really respect this! I’ve had women thank me after sending this type of text message, and quietly go away without making any noise. They knew we were still casual, and if they think you’ve met your princess and will be living “happily ever after” then she can deal with that.

Easy peasy.

And dammit does it feel good!

If you have to get some pussy, realize online or offline it is a numbers game if you are actively seeking to get laid. Just keep pursuing a hookup and eventually you will get a bite on your line. I recommend actively seeking a hookup online, and passively responding offline. If you are still in the game, looking for steady hook ups, you need to concentrate on picking up on female Indicators of Interest and capitalizing off of them. Like a woman looking you in the eye and smiling at you, or complimenting you, etc. This has the highest return in cost-benefit. I don’t recommend cold approaching women in public today, their attitudes have gone from bad to worse.

I appreciate the tips, but all this seem a waste of time, money and effort, while your date has to do nothing. These are an overall of the problems I have with your advices:

honeywelldarcy wrote:

I ALWAYS show up 10-20 minutes late so they’re forced to buy their own cup of coffee (again, the goal is to spend as little as possible);

Well, money spent on a date is just part of it. When you go to a date you are spending money, time, effort and you are putting yourself in the line for rejection. What is she risking again? Oh yeah, have stuff paid for her.

honeywelldarcy wrote:

I feel like shopping as a couple makes the girl think that we have more of a relationship than just the first date that we have;

Called it. Beside, once again, here is the emphasis on making sure HER needs are filled. There is no expectation for her. It is YOUR job to make HER feel safe, comfortable, in a relationship. So far all she has to do is… nothing.

honeywelldarcy wrote:

I don’t ask, and I don’t come up with some cheesy line. Women want to know their men have b~~~~, so you have to dive in and go for it;

That’s great. Except that it is always like that, isn’t it? Women want what they want, and what about what a men want? I am all in favor for taking initiative, but only is she makes it worthwhile. Just standing there and having a vagina is not enough. Besides, this “dive in and go for it” thing can land you in a lot of trouble if she is crazy enough, and most of the times she is.

honeywelldarcy wrote:

99% of the time, if they go into your apartment they welcome a make-out session

And if anything goes wrong she knows where to send the cops to, so they can arrest you for her false rape claim.

honeywelldarcy wrote:

The VAST majority of the time the women will NOT have sex on the first date. They’ll feel like sluts otherwise. So you make sure to at least try to gently push for sex, but if she won’t allow if… you back off. You have to at least gently push for it to demonstrate to them that you think they’re sexy, and that you’re confident enough to think you deserve it. But again, at the first sign of resistance… you back off! You also want them to know that you’re confident that sex will happen eventually (you’re not in a rush for it).

And again, all depends on what she wants. So far you went for coffee, you made groceries, you went for a movie, show, whatever, you guys went to YOUR house… And what she did again? Oh yeah, she denied you the exact thing you were going for. I am not saying that you should rape the girl, but at this point I see a LOT of effort from the MEN’s part and NOTHING from her. Anyway, let’s proceed.

honeywelldarcy wrote:

So the next day you set date number 2!

Date number 2? Why? I mean, wasn’t all that enough for 1 day, we are supposed to go to ANOTHER date?

honeywelldarcy wrote:

Which was always dinner at my place (remember, at this point I haven’t spent a dollar on her, and I’m going to be making my own dinner so why not invite her??). Have her over, make her a healthy dinner with wine. Eat dinner, go in for the kiss, and sex will more than likely happen that night.

Again, there it is again the MEN doing all the work. So far, the other side of this date had no compromise AT ALL. And she already knows where you live, where you do groceries, and now she will have a free meal. Yeah, you will have to eat, but now instead of cooking for one you are doing for 2. Also, MOST LIKELY, is not CERTAINTY. She might as well deny a second time, since she already had her meal, or she might regret on the next day, and claim that you got her drunk and, guess what? Cops at your door.

honeywelldarcy wrote:

– No $$$ spent, sex happens pretty quickly, and everybody wins. 

Are you kidding? You spent money on coffee, groceries, dinner, movie/show. Besides, besides money, you also spent time going around, effort making the dinner, you risked being rejected (on the BEST case scenario). And what SHE did? Not much, she might have f~~~ed you, but it is not like she didn’t enjoyed as well…

honeywelldarcy wrote:

The only thing you have to worry about during that walk on date #1 is to make sure that she knows you love your family, you have a good job, and you’re a positive guy with great friends.Those are the things that women want in a dude essentially.

Why? I mean, no offense, but that is the thing that makes me go away from relationships. You (men) are always the one that have to prove worthy. You are the one that have to be more then just a “nice guy”. I mean, if you have some looks (if she is attracted to you and vice versa) and both of you have a great time, what does you background, your financial status or your take on life matter to the girl? What about HER background, HER financial status, and HER take on life? That doesn’t matter to a guy if you are just for a couple of dates, why all of suddenly it does to her? You improve yourself, for YOUR sake. If you date doesn’t “agree” or don’t “like” how you manage your life, maybe it is not worth the trouble. Besides, that’s NOT what women want. That’s what they SAY they want, but reality proves otherwise

http://thoughtcatalog.com/anne-gus/2014/03/why-all-women-should-do-porn-at-least-once/

honeywelldarcy wrote:

Oh! And another thing I’ve noticed about women. If you meet them at a club, walk up to them and say “Hi, I noticed you from across the room, I thought you were cute and I wanted to say hello.” Even the coldest, most miserable bitch will appreciate your honesty and be open to a conversation.

Really? I would love to see what clubs you are going, because for my experience, that’s not what happens.

And I guess that is it regarding your tips.

I don’t see just the waste of money on a “date”, that’s how women think. It is a waste of time, effort, and an emotional risk (remember, YOU are the one exposing yourself, taking the risks and making the initiative. I would be fine with it if that was all you had to do, but it isn’t is it?). Not to say your reputation in case she regrets the dates.

This looks more like the tips a woman would tell men, in order to try to bring them back to the plantation.

That’s why I don’t date, too much trouble, too little reward, just not worth it.

By the way:

Mango Ingaway wrote:

My personal approach to dating: I don’t.

You stole my line. hehehe