As some of you know, my other half recently called it quits on our relationship, I went over yesterday to get the last of my stuff. I was distant, formal, in to get my stuff and leave.

Anyway, cut a long story short, the ex-other half, straight away said she had made a mistake, and that she didnt realise what she had until it was gone. Her reason is she has spent so much time fighting for her own turf after an abusive relationship (before me) that she became too independent.

I know it wasn’t because of some other dick…as I have remote access to her email and phone (a little security measure to cut through the bulls~~~- she used my comp once so it stays logged in). She was worried after ending it I would come back and damage anything, I told her, I work in the tech industry, I could’ve remote hacked all her accounts and wiped everything, but I didn’t because I am not like that. Anyway, I am intelligent and cordial and full filled her desire to talk.

I basically told her that she blew it, I was a catch and a half and if I wasn’t good enough then good luck finding some chump that is, I was kind, considerate, loving and f~~~ed her four ways from Sunday whenever the need arose.

Anyway, I told her that I was raised proper enough that forgiveness was not out of reach, only that if we were to mend the bridge and continue, if would involved her conceding to my rules. She would have to make it a 50/50 effort, that I’m tired of doing s~~~ without reciprocation. I used to talk marriage, but told her straight up, the love was there, but I have no intention and wouldn’t marry her. We talked kids, I told her, I’m over that as well, I’m not down for the kids thing any more and that if we got back together, I would love her like nothing happened but I would do my own thing, I would finish my books, see my friends and travel again. She would need to accept the man I was before we met. This wouldn’t make me an  arsehole, I wouldn’t act like a douche, I am a gentleman (and a f~~~ing sir, raised with manners in the shadow of a wooden spoon whooping).

Anyway, those were my terms, I have told her we will take a break for a week, meet to talk and if she wants to act like a person, we can move forward, with me in charge. Otherwise, I go my way without her, and never look over my shoulder. Or she can take my hand, be with a man that knows that life is his bitch and be happy with what she has.

Am I MGTOW, yes, am I possibly still in a relationship….yes. Am I under the thumb, no. Why is this, because no matter what happens, I can walk away from it in 15 seconds if I feel the heat coming around the corner.

Posted while feet up on a desk, smoking a cigar, enjoying a 18 year single malt. Tonight I finish the draft of my first poetry collection.

Life is good because I love and am my own man.

MGTOW is making yourself stronger. Love yourselves.

Her reason is she has spent so much time fighting for her own turf after an abusive relationship (before me) that she became too independent.

And now its: “I didn’t know what I had until it was gone”???
But she knew she was in an “abusive relationship” and kept going back for more.

That’s entirely f~~~ed up on so many levels.

STAYS in an abusive relationship – because she doesn’t know what she has.
LEAVES the good guy – because she doesn’t know what she has.

Tell me you recognize the problem with that.

Conclusion: She doesn’t know what she has no matter how well – or badly – she is treated. After an “abusive relationship” she should already know what she has with you every goddam day. You don’t even need to work that hard! Not abusing her should already be a plus! And now treating her well was STILL not good enough? She gave you a s~~~ty cop out line, and I wouldn’t accept it. When neither being treated like s~~~ (or being treated well) are good enough for her, then she should remain single. Exclamation point.

If I were with a girl who just came from an abusive relationship and she isn’t GUSHING over being treated well, she is history. Permanently. THAT’s a girl with more issues than Vogue. That’s like adopting a beaten dog, and a year after you nurse it back to health, it bites your face off.

eng_87 wrote:

She had made a mistake

This one loves making mistakes. That’s TWO in a row now. Enjoys generating drama and is using you as a plaything. How you treated her is totally irrelevant. I’ll get him to move out… I’ll get him to move back. Yay! I win!! I can have whatever I want!!! like a drug addict getting her fix.

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Quite sincerely, I wish you every success. And while we’re on the topic of you outlining all the terms, you may enjoy reading the terms of Einstein’s marriage contract. He remained married but added clauses that said:

You will renounce all personal relations with me insofar as they are not completely necessary for social reasons. Specifically, you will forego…
1. my sitting at home with you;
2. my going out or traveling with you.

… which is another way of saying “I will to go my own way and its not negotiable”.

I hate that line: “I didn’t know what I had until it was gone”.
Just like that song chicks love: “didn’t know you loved her ’til you let her go”.
Whatever bulls~~~ sell albums, I guess.

Men will put with all kinds of s~~~ and hang on her even when its’ not great for him. When it’s great for a woman, she lets him go anyway and realizes it after the fact. That makes about as much sense as an orange with handlebars. For that reason, I believe in “One chance. Per chick. Per lifetime. No exceptions.” Did the best of what I was prepared to do. If my “best” isn’t good enough, that’s the end of it – regardless of who calls it off.

Don’t call me and tell me “I didn’t know what I had until it was gone”. I already know women play like that. That’s WHY I was good to them. So I can respond with “That’s your own f~~~ing problem. Don’t make it mine.” when the phone rings again, and feel really good about it.

One chance. Per chick. Per lifetime. No exceptions.

Heading to the doctors, end of the week to get info on that procedure.

Any others been through it?

I just love your last statement “Am I under the thumb, no. Why is this, because no matter what happens, I can walk away from it in 15 seconds if I feel the heat coming around the corner”.  To me that is pure MGTOW.  No longer pussy whipped, in full control, no absolute attachment, can pull the plug at any moment without any remorse, no regrets and no concerns.  That puts you in absolute full control.  That is having your own way.  She’ll try coming back with a compromise but tell her its your way or the highway.