Well maybe because, I’m a man, who has seen the radical shift of marriage for over the last 50 years now. And I can tell you, just as sure as I breath, that the marriage game is over. The writing is on the wall guys. In fact, there is no spot left on the wall to write another single word.  It’s full. It’s clear. It’s complete. It’s final. And it’s sad. This is not how I wanted marriage to be, nor how God intended it to be. Yes I believe in God. No it was intended to be a win, win situation for all involved, man, women, and child. But now the daggers that women of  yesterday use to fling at us has turned into the nukes they fire at us today. These are big nukes guys and the courts are the launching pads for these instruments of destruction. Lets take a closer look at this destruction.

1.) The family unit is all but gone now. There are a few survivors, that’s for sure, but most family units today are a desolate place wrapped up in misery and pain. Adultery, lack of respect between the members of the family, hate, lack of child guidance, lack of any kind of support between the members, is all that is left. It’s a pandemic of enormously negative ramifications. The main reason in my mind is that woman, once the center piece of the family, as my mom was, has fled the scene. They have abandoned the ship and in doing so have caused a split between men and woman that I don’t think can be erased. That can’t be fixed.

Have men treated woman badly before, for sure they have, there are always a few bad apples in every batch as with the ladies, but can the destruction of the family unit, as a whole, be solidly place at the man’s feet, no I don’t think so, and I don’t say this just because I’m a man. I say this because the stats are clear and point directly at the ladies. After all, who initiates divorce most often now days? The ladies, of course. They know that to, don’t kid yourself. They know what they are doing, I have no doubt of that. They can read just as well as we can. Are they justified in what they do. No more then men are justified for what they do, although they will claim they are. Wrong is wrong ladies. Call it what it is. Be honest with yourselves. Own up to it, now that it’s already to late.

2.) The court system is so one sided that even a blind man can see it. They take more from the man then the ladies bring into the marriage. No equality at all guys. This one sidedness was setup and continues today unabated. Marriage has become nothing more then a contract of which the law of the land will coldly in force, you best believe it. You will be on the receiving in of this stick, over and over again. A stick that often comes right out of the blue. You think things are going great in your marriage? She never says a word indicating she is dissatisfied within it? That’s when she pulls the ugly stick out from behind the couch and begins the assault. The point is. You never know. Marriage is a contract that can be broken any time for any reason. Marriage, as you might picture it in your mind is not what marriage means to day. It’s dead, move on. Don’t partake.

3.) And last but not least, your manhood is destroyed, which leads to the complete and utter destruction of yourself self image. You’re left with anger, hate, and mistrust that follows you all the days of your life. You become damaged with no way to be fixed. Marriage is dead guys. It’s as dead as you will be if you engage in this practice.

Did I want to say all of these things? No, not in a million years. Like I said, I wanted marriage to mean more, I expected more from the ladies. Am I saying treat the ladies with distain, degrade them, hate them, treat them less then human. No. Remember again, I believe in God. God wouldn’t want that, and neither do I. No, what I’m saying is: Men go your own way. Let them have marriage and every negative thing that comes with it. Let them rule the roost, but let that roost be as barren as the dead sea. Aspire to something greater for there is certainly things greater then what the marriage of today can offer. Much more rewarding. The horse is indeed dead guys. Let it alone, lest you will become it’s next casualty. Guaranteed.

Joseph.

Yipee 😊

Yup.  I’m old enough to remember the early days of feminism, namely, women’s lib.  The social situation was a lot different back then.  There was very little discussion of no-fault divorce–divorce, in fact, seldom and was difficult to obtain.  Pre-nuptial agreements were new and were actually binding back then.  Single-parent families were rare and women who had children outside of marriage were generally scorned and shamed–by other women.

I’m going to be 60 this year and I often look back and wonder just how we got ourselves into the horrible mess we find ourselves in now.

So thanks older generation…because of you ruining marriage, I get to go through life making all of my own financial decisions and never have to face the pressure past generations did to involve myself in a contract that can literally cost me half or more of my wealth over night.

Now I know people want to figure this out, even correct it, but it takes two to dance and the other party, meaning the ladies, don’t want to. So, I say, walk away. Nothing more a person can do.

Beer wrote:

Sometimes I want to blame the older generations for making marriage such a f~~~ed up institution for my generation like they actually ruined a good thing for me, but then I realize, I really should be thanking you guys. Once you get past the idea that marriage is something you have to do to start a family and have kids, and you come to terms with the fact that odds are you will get divorced, and odds are she will be the one initiating, you realize if you really want to go that route a live in girlfriend is the same thing as a wife, only she has to live knowing that if the relationship ends the gravy train is over and she’s not walking away with a dime of your assets. Even if kids are involved 0-18 years of child support is a lot less money than 0-18 years of child support, half of my pension I’m working on, half of my 401k, half of my brokerage account, half of my cash holdings, and having to buy her out of any real estate wealth accumulated during the marriage. So thanks older generation…because of you ruining marriage, I get to go through life making all of my own financial decisions and never have to face the pressure past generations did to involve myself in a contract that can literally cost me half or more of my wealth over night.

It’s a good thing.