I have been a mgtow for a while, and I know I am so stupid to be with the girl but it is like I legitimately ‘like’ her despite the games, but she is only partly into the relationship where I feel like I am falling hard for her.  How do I dump / distance myself from a girl that we like each other, but I know I’m tripping over myself here and it will likely end in disaster?

Thanks.

I’m willing to bet that it’s the thrill of the chase that is getting you into her. You dig the laid back aspect of having a pretty cool chic to hang out with on occasion and even bang, but because she runs hot and cold, it has you wondering to yourself just how she really feels since you yourself are having stronger feelings for her. But what would happen if she suddenly gave you what you want? What then? Moving in together? Ughh. Getting married? Ughhhhh! You know where it all goes. Is THAT what you really want?

You say she has red flags? Just how red are these flags you speak of?

I’d take a step back and reassess. At the moment you seem to have something you are okay with. A friend with benefits. Why push it? If she isn’t marriage material (are there any who are?), then you need to step back and see the situation for what it is, and then act accordingly. She runs hot and cold? Start doing it back to her. This will invoke a response of some kind. Either she will notice and say something, at which point the two of you can perhaps have a discussion about your feelings about each other. Or, she will not seem to care all too much and not mention anything, and in this case, you’ll already know she is just taking advantage of a dick to ride while she finds the man she really wants to sink her teeth into.

Guard your emotions, and your sperm.

Just like alcoholics anonymous, one day at a time.

The AA analogy is right.  I must admit for me walking away from women was like going ‘cold turkey’.  There are some nice things to be said about being around/with women.  But in the end the cost/benefit analysis just doesn’t make it worth ones while.  The price is just TO DAMN HIGH.

You dig the laid back aspect of having a pretty cool chic to hang out with on occasion and even bang, but because she runs hot and cold, it has you wondering to yourself just how she really feels since you yourself are having stronger feelings for her. But what would happen if she suddenly gave you what you want? What then? Moving in together? Ughh. Getting married? Ughhhhh! You know where it all goes. Is THAT what you really want?

You say she has red flags? Just how red are these flags you speak of?

Yeah I think you are way right about that.

Red flags:

In 40s (way hot still)

has 3 kids

im not susposed to call her because of some custody battle susposedly (only she calls me)

Haha, sounds really bad I know, but on the other hand the sex flows free, she buys dinner, the hotel etc, but again we dont live near each other so its very occsional, and her calls about 2-3 times a week.