We’ve been together for almost 14 years.  I was never really attracted to her in the first place. But I was downloading a lot of porn and so I needed someone who could fix my computer for me. I was getting a lot of viruses. I guess what I really needed was a good software program but I didn’t know that at the time. I enjoyed spend time with her most of the time. We had fun together. But she was definitely not what I was looking for in a relationship.

My first 2 marriages left me financially crippled. So I was living with some room mates and it really sucked. I just needed a better situation. So when she invited me to live with her I accepted. I figured it would be very short term. But in all this time we’ve never really had any arguments. I mean we’ve been p~~~ed at each other from time to time. She started gambling and required me to bail her out. And there was the time I brought a sexy young Asian girl home with me because her boyfriend had kicked her out. My “wife” is bi so I thought we could have some fun with her. We had a few 3 somes before I moved in with her. But my “wife” felt threatened this time so I ended up giving the Asian to my best friend to enjoy. Which he did. But In 14 years I don’t think I’ve had to do more than talk sternly to my “wife”. I can’t think of a time we ever yelled at each other. There were times I wanted to dump her. But it never got so bad that I wanted to pack all my s~~~ and actually go. So, slowly and without any real passion, the years ticked by.

About 3 years ago, after she was “emotionally distraught” that I still was being cheap with her after she had given me 10 years of her life and it being christmas time, I asked her if she wanted to get married. She agreed. Fortunately we decided not to make it a technically legal marriage. We had a ceremony in the park with family and friends. But, again, I never signed the documents and Washington state doesn’t recognize common law marriage.

Shortly thereafter I inherited enough money to buy a nice house, a decent car for her and another for myself, and some extras. And shortly after that I had an injury that resulted in me getting SSI. A year ago she told me that she was no longer physically able to do her job. So she quit and applied for benefits. It will probably be about another year before she gets a final determination. I told her then that she should not expect me to pay for her forever in the event that she gets turned down. And, having enough room, we took in a few renters to help with expenses.

Since a year ago the relationship has gotten more stale than ever. She hangs in the bedroom while I spend nearly all my time in my home office. And what was maybe a 60/40 relationship has turned into more of a 90/10. I keep a roof over her head and pay her minor expenses. She has a trickle of money coming in so she chips in for food, her car insurance, and a half a tank of gas.

We’ve had sex 3 times in the last 3 years. Partly because of my injury. But mostly because she’s such a lousy lay that its about as exciting for me as taking out the trash. She rarely cooks anything. Maybe once a week. And getting her to pick up after herself is next to impossible. She whines and complains constantly. Mostly about our renters who wouldn’t be here if she was holding up her half of the expenses. Occasionally she still helps when I have a problem with the computer. But that’s pretty rare. Last week I told her that my therapist had pointed out that if anything happens to me over the next 3 years then the house reverts to the trust fund and she will be out on her ass. So she had best become more involved with my diabetes and making sure that I eat right. My wife snapped that my therapist and I were just trying to lay a guilt trip on her. Completely missing the point!

All in all she does as little as she possibly can for me. Yet for some reason I still do whatever I can to make her life pleasant. I bought her a swimming pool even though I wanted a hot tub instead. I bought her a 55″ TV that she wore out in a year because she never turned it off even when she left the house. Then she insisted that I pay to get it fixed. I told her she’d have to wait so she insisted on moving the big screen projector into the bedroom and had a fit when I told her I wasn’t going to let her wear that out too. Still no raised voices though. Just a lot of whining on her part.

Then a couple of weeks ago she told me that  she was “feeling stressed” by some of the problems with our renters and me not fixing her TV right away and such. So she was going to go live with her mom for a couple of weeks. She was a bit surprised when I acted very calmly and told her that if she thought that was necessary I understood and would help her get her old room cleaned out. I told her I might even go over and stay with her some nights. But really I was thinking, “If she leaves then it will be a lot easier to tell her she can’t come back!” But after several days of making noises about it she changed her mind. That figures.

Then last week I came across a web site for these AMAZING love dolls. I knew about the $6000 ones that Real Doll makes. But these are even better and they’re just $2100. I can do that. Check them out! http://www.reallovesexdolls.com/ They’re completely pose-able and look and feel (so I am told) like a real woman. Here’s a video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1kjAxR0LOw And I’m asking myself would I rather lay next to something truly beautiful excites me sexually and doesn’t whine and complain or make demands but isn’t real? Or would I rather lay next to something that’s real but whines and complains and makes demands and doesn’t excite me sexually? Because either way I’m going to be making compromises. And let’s face it at 56 years of age with a serious disability and erectile dysfunction because of the diabetes I’m not going be landing any unicorns. And while I’m not beyond paying for some companionship (I always said that the pussy I paid for cost a LOT less than the pussy I got for “free”) I’d still hate to lay out $150 for an episode of erectile dysfunction. Which would also be a risk for any woman I might meet. I suppose I could keep my “wife” and just tell her to deal with it. But you can imagine how that would work out.

I honestly think this is my best option! Tell me I’m not crazy.

I would recommend that you dump the current woman.

Chucks_Revenge wrote:

I’m asking myself would I rather lay next to something truly beautiful excites me sexually and doesn’t whine and complain or make demands but isn’t real?

This makes me believe that you are trading a real woman for an artificial one.  This is not necessarily a bad thing.

However, I would suggest that you try not living with one at all, for awhile.  You just may find that you like not having one around.

I better stock up on marshmallows for cooking over the fire as the world burns. Smores at my place when everything finishes going to s~~~.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/linda-larrowe-bergersen/diabetes-let-food-be-thy-_b_5585712.html
http://www.amazon.com/There-Is-Cure-Diabetes-Program/dp/1556436912
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-3168615/Could-liquid-diet-reverse-diabetes-transform-treatment-provide-drug-free-way-treating-condition.html

But I also agree with soldier-medic: one thing at a time. Get that old baggage out of your life FIRST and then give yourself some breathing space, time to heal, and think about things. You’d be surprised how getting an irrational bitch out of your life will help you calm down and see things more clearly.

And as far as having a sex doll being crazy, I would say absolutely not. For many people, myself included, sex is just a biological function and a way to relieve stress. Why should it matter if you use another person, your hand and internet porn, or a doll? I can’t see how one is any more healthy than the other.  At least with a doll, you won’t catch diseases (STD or computer virus types), and you can do it at your convenience without all the added stress.

At least with a doll, you won’t catch diseases (STD or computer virus types), and you can do it at your convenience without all the added stress.

Plus she can’t get pregnant! That’s a HUGE plus!!!

Yeah, doll is looking more and more like a sane option 🙂

If you get one, let us all know how it works out.

1) It’s always in the back of your mind that you have to please her (distraction alert)
2) You don’t have sex whenever you want to
3) She demands stuff in bed and overall
4) You have restrictions to what you can and can not do
5) She could get pregnant and f~~~ you up
6) She could cheat and/or get an STD by some other unfortunate way (the dentist?) and infect you

ETC. ETC.

While with the love doll it’s all RAW AWESOME SEX and ONLY fun times. As soon as I get more money and a bigger place I will get one doll too! I’m actually really excited to f~~~ some of these dolls. Hell, if I like it too much I will buy 2-3 so that I will f~~~ whichever I feel like and make orgies with them.

I highly approve of that idea. Please, be sure to let us know if it’s as pleasurable as I imagine it to be when you get one. Awesome stuff.

It sucks to be your situation. However you diabetes can be cured if it’s type 2. Green juice fasting can help with this. You are probably over weight and this will also help. You can easily do a 30 day juice fast as long you’re not doing a lot of heaving exercise or lifting. I have done many juice fasts and it’s very enjoyable. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/linda-larrowe-bergersen/diabetes-let-food-be-thy-_b_5585712.html http://www.amazon.com/There-Is-Cure-Diabetes-Program/dp/1556436912 http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-3168615/Could-liquid-diet-reverse-diabetes-transform-treatment-provide-drug-free-way-treating-condition.html

Thank you for the info. I’m 240 lbs @ 5′ 9″ so I’m carrying about 60 lbs more than my high school weight. I haven’t been able to work out due to the injury. I’ve been walking a half mile per day and trying to get that up to 2 miles. I’ll definitely look into the juice diet!