MGTOWHow do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man? – MGTOW https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/feed/ Mon, 08 Jun 2020 22:13:50 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=2.5.14-6684 en-US https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/page/402/#post-34301 <![CDATA[How do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/page/402/#post-34301 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 17:48:00 +0000 Cheesypeesy Hi everyone; I was primarily raised by my mother after she divorced from my father (a clean divorce, thankfully). My household consists of me, my mother, my step dad (beta, but did introduce me to “soccer”), my older sister and my  younger step brother. I’ve had the unfortunate experience of growing up without a male role model, and so I’ve picked up some feminine traits, like giggling (trying to control this).

 

Thing is, when I resist doing stupid things ,like dancing in the kitchen with my mother and sister, they say I’m “not being myself” and give me a hard time. It’s like they’re trying to hold me back from becoming a man and/or they don’t want to lose their favourite mangina. I can go for a time but they chip away from me until I relapse.

 

So my question is this; how do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man? I know it isn’t a huge deal but I feel they’re in the way of my path to manhood. Any advice would be much appreciated.

 

TLDR: Mother and sister don’t respect me as a man, need practical advice to change this.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34331 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34331 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 19:07:43 +0000 XSDBS
Cheesypeesy wrote:

So my question is this; how do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?

You can’t…but you can minimize their “feminine” influence on you, move into your own place.(assuming you are a legal adult)

 

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34333 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34333 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 19:09:51 +0000 Russky You do that by moving out

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34338 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34338 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 19:18:36 +0000 Cheesypeesy Hi XSDBS and Russky, thank for your replies; I had a feeling this would be the answer. Although I’m a legal adult I’m only 19 and I plan on saving up for a few years until I can put down a deposit for a mortgage, rather than renting out and having no assets to show for it. I’m only earning £14.5k ($21.5k) a year, so I wouldn’t have a lot of disposable income, never mind being able to save up.

 

It’s funny, even my mother and sister s~~~ test me, I’ve only begun to realise. Maybe since I’ve failed all these years they don’t see me as a man. It might be worth just limiting contact with them unless absolutely necessary? My sister is moving out soon so that’s good, and she’s the worst for s~~~ tests.

 

I know there probably isn’t a lot I can do, so I guess I needn’t worry about it.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34342 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34342 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 19:22:08 +0000 Franky Simply continue to do what you like and enjoy.If they show distaste ignore them.Just be aware that you may never ever get their respect.If they are too hard to ignore, move out.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34344 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34344 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 19:27:43 +0000 Russky find roommates. savior the freedom

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34345 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34345 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 19:31:20 +0000 harpo-my-"SON" I must ask your age just for  perspective?   regardless of how old you are you will always be your mothers son in her eyes….I live with my mother and sister, not by my choice but out of their necessity…Both are disabled….My mother still treats me like a child at times and I am 52 years old…She is 72 and has dementia….I tell you this because you should know mothers always look at their sons as their little boy….no matter how old he is..

how do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?

Tell them to be yourself is to define yourself….I am growing into a self identified self defined Man and a real man defines himself without female input,expectation,or validation….They should be impressed with this..If not learn to dance and lighten up, if your still living at home respect who is providing that home..

I know it isn’t a huge deal but I feel they’re in the way of my path to manhood. Any advice would be much appreciated.

Your right its not a huge deal.  But wrong also because No one is standing in your way. You can humor them until your out on your own…No reason to express strong masculine views to the female members of your immediate family..The statement above about defining yourself should be enough to let them know That “you will be your own man”…And they may be the only females on your side later in life when you need them….

 

I was bound to be misunderstood, and I laugh at those who misunderstand me. Kind mockery at the well intentioned, but unfettered cruelty towards those would be prison guards of my creative possibilities. This so as to learn as much from misunderstanding as from understanding. Taking pleasure in worthy opponents and making language fluid and flowing like a river yet pointed and precise as a dagger. Contradicts the socialistic purpose of language and makes for a wonderful linguistic dance, A verbal martial art with constant parries that hone the weapon that is the two edged sword of my mouth.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34353 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34353 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 19:42:54 +0000 Big Viking Chef BVC Be happy and fulfilled by something that you do, giving 100%.  If you are sad and moody, they feel they need to give you advice.  When they want to include you in order to fix you, you just tell them that there is no time because of X (X = bodybuilding, running, sport, music, study, etc.) and be driven in whatever X is.  Be super nice to them in the small time that you give them, and really be in the moment.  They will HAVE to respect you when you say No, because you are carving your own path, not just wandering.  Later, you may find that your sister will be bragging about you to her peers, and so will your mom.  That is respect.

Also, getting some roommates and getting out on your own was mentioned here, and trust me, the TIME OF YOUR LIFE.

Have fun, man.

BVC

 

Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34360 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34360 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 19:51:26 +0000 Cheesypeesy Thank you Harpomason, this is a great post., I’m 19 years old. I’ve discussed MGTOW concepts to them but they always say “just wait until you meet someone and you’ll be head over heels. And I’ll be there to say I told you so”. So I don’t think they’d be all that impressed. It’s not that they’re feminists or anything, but they have the common belief that a man without a woman cannot be happy and fulfilled.

You’re probably right that I need to lighten up; I think ingesting all this new information has made me a bit serious when it comes to the women in my life, when really I should have a IDGAF attitude. I guess one can go too far if they don’t take implementing the MGTOW philosophy with care.

And Viking, that’s a great suggestion regarding filling my time with things I’m passionate about; I will make it my task to find suitable projects to work on.  As cool as it would be to move out with friends, most of my friends don’t even work full time and are pretty unreliable in general, and I’m a bit wary of living with strangers.

Thank you all for your thoughts; this is why we need dedicated spaces for men!

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34371 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do I get my mother and sister to respect me as a man?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-get-my-mother-and-sister-to-respect-me-as-a-man/#post-34371 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 20:12:55 +0000 RoyDal My parents sent me to college when I was about your age. If they hadn’t, I would have joined the military. I had to get out. That said, saving up for a place you own is a good plan. I “retired young” by building up a small collection of rental properties.

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