But then there is that tiny little need that I must admit, I still have. And that is to have sex with hot chicks. When I was in my 20’s it was easy for me. I had an okay job, looked great, had “game”, etc. I wasn’t wealthy but there was the POTENTIAL that I would be well off someday. So chicks were fine with me and I attracted them easily.

Fast forward to now. The potential never panned out. I am not a success in life. I honestly do not care at all that I am not a success in life. I truly don’t care about status or “important jobs”. It means nothing to me. Whether you are a janitor or the CEO of a Fortune 500 Company, I am just not impressed with that, you are a human being and your character is far more important to me than how many initials you have after your name (MD, PHD, MBA, etc.) I would rather hang out with the janitor anyday than the CEO, i am sure the Janitor is a helluva lot more fun to have a beer with.

Having said all that……I find myself in a bit of a hopeless situation. While I totally accept myself and I accept what I am and what I am NOT……. I find it impossible to approach women anymore. We all know that they want a guy with money. Well, I don’t have a whole lot of that.

I have good looks, a great physique (especially for a 40 year old guy), a lot of interests. But it does not matter. All that matters is that I am not a “Financial Sales District Manager”.

What to do? Just go without sex for the rest of my life? That would be very sad if I had to do that. I am not interested in hookers, that is just nasty (no offense to anyone who is into that though). It’s just not my thing. The thought of being with a woman who has bedded thousands of guys, just really is a boner killer for me.

If it is only sex I am looking for and NOTHING else…….I mean what is a guy to do?

Actually, girls don’t really care about money – 99 out of 100 would choose “a decent guy” over a rich one, they are brought up to believe that they need security and they know that a bad guy can take away his money but a good guy will stick around – providing more security in the long run. What I have found is that they will sleep with men who are confident rather than any other factor (money / looks / physique / niceness) and I think you said it all in your post –

“I find it impossible to approach women anymore”

If you dont approach you dont get and approach anxiety is in your head – this is happening because of your perceptions, not the girls’

I would dress the part and allow her to assume I am one of those  “Financial Sales District Managers”. After sex, it doesn’t matter- you are not planning to keep her. And you did not deceive her…

Actually, girls don’t really care about money

taliensin wrote:

ehm,the whole “women want money” thing isn’t really true,

Women don’t care EXCLUSIVELY about money. They also look for status and power. If you have some combination of those things they will be attracted. If not, well then you’d better be able to fake it.

Women also don’t always insist on billionaires, it’s true. Women will go for a man who only makes $40k a year, but only if they can’t get someone making $50k. But as soon as they can get Mr. $50k they’ll trade up at the first opportunity. Rinse. Repeat.

Nextly, Unless your making minimum wage, without a woman, you should be able to retire in 10 years with a middle class life style ( \w roughly $1 million ), with a 50-60k/year salary based on a budget of $10k/yr for living expenses.
An average investment will give you 10% per year, minus inflation of 3% to be conservative and your looking at $70k/yr minus taxes – because of your age and probably lack of previous investments you should be able to get most of it tax free if you start now.

Lastly, if you are working a s~~~ty min wage job, go find a better job! Warehouse jobs pay $16-30/hr, truck drivers get $25-50/hr, construction pays $25-100/hr, drive a mining truck and that’s $75-100/hr, heck even fedex delivery drivers get $18-30/hr. All of these jobs require no education and provide more than enough income to have a middle class life style, of which is PLENTY to attract women.

http://www.mgtow.com/video/how-women-look-at-men/
You can rent a BMW, cause chicks are too stupid to figure out that all rental license plates are written differently… and suits are relatively cheap in comparison to an iphone 😛
Re-use the suit, and your looking at $100 per 1 night stand.

Easy for me to say as I haven’t started a topic yet….“Guys I need your help. How to get girls when you are not a big ole’ success?”

You came to the right place for help, take mine with a grain of salt.

“How to get girls” is driving in reverse, do a 180, stop looking over your shoulder, and crap, there’s four gears.  I.e. the girls can kiss your butt, you’re indifferent now and they can’t get enough of it. You ignore them completely and they chirp like birds, make arm gestures, move any way they can….all because they are after you now. The second you go back to trying to get them, they’re gone and rubbing your face in it with the “I was not, am not, will not be interested in you” BS.

I  don’t know that stopping on a rung of the ladder and saying “you are a big ole success” ever really works.  It’s enjoying reaching for the next rung, and you’re doing that here.

Steven King said, “life isn’t a support system for art, it’s the other way around”  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/making-connections-count/201504/work-life-balance-lesson-we-learn-stephen-kings-desk

Find what you enjoy doing [[[[some compromise is often warranted here]]] and do it with passion.

“it doesn’t matter what you do, so long as you do something, and do it unsparingly.”

Hope this helps.

PS   are you better with people or machines?     problem solving or memorization?   Initiation or completion,    structured work or free form.        most things are a compromise, try to be honest with yourself on your skillsets vs wants etc.