By the second or third meeting, I was 95% certain that she was not sexually attracted to me. It’s pretty obvious when someone wants you and when they don’t. Nevertheless, she was young and attractive and I wanted her (and hope springs eternal in the human crotch, they say) so I met her again a few times. Just as I was about to give up and move on, she made a move on me.

Okay, so it IS on, after all… or so I thought. But that’s not what it turned out to be at all. She would give me all the signs of sexual disinterest and then turn on me at the end of the night like she wanted me… right up until I went in for the kill, at which point she would “call in the cooler” using whatever trick or technique she had available to make sure things never progressed too far.

For a guy like me who is used to a much more direct approach, this was confusing at first… but I figured out that she was just looking to take me for my time, energy and treasure (duh!) and was using the lure of the potential for sex to keep me on the line.

Now of course I’d seen that before… but I’d never had a female actually get physical with me in order to do it, usually it’s just the suggestion. But it turns out this is how she operates, which I found out by polling her social group later on.

Next time I meet a female I’m interested in getting with, I’m going to have to remember to check up on her first… or just go with my gut instincts (my fault for ignoring the signs on this one) and cut her when we get to three and all our clothes are still on.

I used to frequent bars daily and learned about the game.  The key is to be the game, not to play it.

At a bar, a woman knows if she will f~~~ you the first 60 seconds after meeting you.   All the other pleasantries and courtship won’t change a f~~~ing thing.  She may “let” you f~~~ her after a while of teasing, but you have to give up too much time, energy, and resources in order to do it.  Remember,  for every guy pulling out all the stops to f~~~ a girl, there is another guy out who will get to f~~~ her with no effort.  Don’t let a girl play this game.

Careful when she reels you in and goes for the kill through your wallet.

She was hot, very hot (both in terms of attraction and temperature, so I had a clear green light saying, go for it).

So, when we were at about the time when you just start taking clothes of rapidly, i looked at the watch and said: “You wanted to leave before 18.00, we don’t have enough time for this”.

That was the last time she met me solo, but we did meet with some other friends as well, as she did not seem angry at me, but Im guessing she does not want a guy that can keep his head so focused.

Or she just does not like that I dont run behind her as a dog, or any of the other billion things that can be wrong for  woman… who cares, it was her friendship I wanted anyway :D.

The only solution I found for myself was to spit out the hook, break orbit, and migrate.

chir wrote:

you may be numb to the pain the hook has been set for so long.  Here is what we see.

Careful when she reels you in and goes for the kill through your wallet.

As Kandahar pointed out, people know whether they WANT each other within the first 60 seconds… I’d say it’s more like the first 1/6th of a second. Nothing about that has changed. What has changed is that guys are getting wiser faster and “breaking orbit” as RoyDal so aptly put it, a lot earlier so females trying to run game on us are having to give up more.

Thanks for the support, fellas. It helps. See you in outer space.

I’ll have to run it by my sister and find out what this really means. Orbiters are very important to them for so many uses. I have one that’ll periodically hit me up to draw me into orbit. I think she does it to make her boyfriend jealous when they fight. Once I picked up on her pattern, I hung up my cleats.