MGTOWDo I need a pick-me-up? – MGTOW https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/feed/ Mon, 08 Jun 2020 22:13:07 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=2.5.14-6684 en-US https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/page/370/#post-43723 <![CDATA[Do I need a pick-me-up?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/page/370/#post-43723 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 16:32:37 +0000 alternative_roo It’s funny but after I sit down to think about things, after my last long term relationship fell apart (I’m a bit of a dichotomy as I’m gay but I will explain how I feel like gay relationships are not that different from straight ones later, maybe).

I used to do a lot of things before my relationship and then a good bit at the start, but as it went on I did less and less. Now I seem to sit around all day doing nothing, I’m not really in the mood to play games or watch films most of the time and when I do I can’t think of anything to do/watch.

I should be able to “man up” but it isn’t that easy, would be good if I had someone to kick me up the backside but that wont work. I don’t suppose anyone has a tip or two on how to push myself back into enjoying life?

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43732 <![CDATA[Reply To: Do I need a pick-me-up?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43732 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 17:17:18 +0000 Howdy Roo,

I can relate to where you are coming from.

Motivation comes from within. Rigorous exercise helps produce endorphins that fight off the funk. Laughter is good. Meditation is good. Trying to learn something new everyday is good, even if it is something small.  Good luck.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43739 <![CDATA[Reply To: Do I need a pick-me-up?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43739 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 17:38:41 +0000 alternative_roo @GotSmart

Hay there, well I should add that it’s not just sitting around playing games and watching movies that I used to do, I was into fighting (for sport), going to the gym and really looking after myself. Now, not so much.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43745 <![CDATA[Reply To: Do I need a pick-me-up?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43745 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 18:00:29 +0000 chir Call some friends, talk to them see whats up.  See if they want to get together have some fun, sports, barbeque, go to pub.   Reconnect with your buddies.  Feel better.

Go exercise, don’t eat fast food, play some games, do some raiding or kick some ass.  Feel better.

Your choice to feel better.  There is no man up.  You’re already a man so you ARE man up.

Men don’t have a billion support groups or government programs to make them feel better.  Why?  Because we can take care of ourselves when we put our minds to it thank you very f~~~ing much.

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43746 <![CDATA[Reply To: Do I need a pick-me-up?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43746 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 18:03:57 +0000 I agree with what GotSmart had to say. Maybe if you tried to force your self to do a little training, it could be a positive cycle, work out, feel better, work out some more, feel a little better.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43747 <![CDATA[Reply To: Do I need a pick-me-up?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43747 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 18:04:47 +0000 Roo,

I too lost motivation and purpose when my relationship ended. There were even thoughts of suicide. There is a history of depression and mental illness on both my mothers and fathers sides of the family. I watched my mother sit in her rocking chair for the last 10 years of her life, feeling sorry for herself and wanting someone to RESCUE her, knowing she was the only one who could take that first step. I don’t mean to sound harsh but YOU are the only one that can take that first step. Get mad at yourself if you have to but take that first step, and then the second. All I can offer is encouragement.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43756 <![CDATA[Reply To: Do I need a pick-me-up?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43756 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 18:32:29 +0000 alternative_roo I could. I really need to fix my financial situation, living off of disability benefits in the UK doesn’t amount to much, sure we get more than the US but when you factor in every expense it isn’t that much (you also have to take world economics into account). So I could do with a s~~~ ton of money (pity I’m not a woman and can claim hardship or abuse so I could get 4k a month from patreon).

Anyway, guess you’re right. I probably need to be a bit more selfish for a while. If anyone is interested I have a BA in mental health (no really, the people who study things and then fall foul of them are the worst) so I was thinking of writing up a little “Why gay relationships today are so similar to straight one’s that the outcomes are practically the same”. That’s why I sort of claim I don’t see much difference between straight and gay MGTOW’s.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43768 <![CDATA[Reply To: Do I need a pick-me-up?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43768 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 19:06:31 +0000 Exsliventxs
alternative_roo wrote:

I don’t suppose anyone has a tip or two on how to push myself back into enjoying life?

Sunlight. Get some sun on your face. Just stop and sit on a bench for a bit. Close your eyes, let the sun dance through your eyelids.

Your mind will be filled with things you enjoy, and things you’ve yet to try.

You’ll find yourself happier and invigorated to be active.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43771 <![CDATA[Reply To: Do I need a pick-me-up?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43771 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 19:10:05 +0000 Voidraithe I would certainly like to see what you come up with.

I will admit that after my last relationship ended I turned to drink for a while just because I was bored, but don’t follow that example. I figured out what to do to pass the time eventually, now I work at little home projects, play video games or tabletop RPGs like D&D with friends one or twice a week.

 

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43772 <![CDATA[Reply To: Do I need a pick-me-up?]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/do-i-need-a-pick-me-up/#post-43772 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 19:14:41 +0000 chir
Exsliventxs wrote:
Alternative Roo wrote:

I don’t suppose anyone has a tip or two on how to push myself back into enjoying life?

Sunlight. Get some sun on your face. Just stop and sit on a bench for a bit. Close your eyes, let the sun dance through your eyelids. Your mind will be filled with things you enjoy, and things you’ve yet to try. You’ll find yourself happier and invigorated to be active.

Unless you’re like me and Irish.  When exposed to sunlight I just simply burst into flame.

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

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