for the most part of my life i thought i was alone with my perception of the whole marriage issue and women relationships. Finding this forums i am glad i am not. I have been lurking around these forums and i recognize so much i have seen with friends, family and associates. Fortunately that cup passed from me.

A little bit about myself: i am 39 and never had a long-term relationship. When i was younger i was an introvert – looking back i have to say that was a blessing. If i had not been, i would most likely have a nagging bitch dragging me down by now. Today i have my own nice apartment in a  nice city, i earn 6-figures in € (i pay a lot of tax, but its still way more than i actually need), i am more fit then i ever was (i run 3x10k every week), i can play video games as long as i want, do whatever i want. The only responsibilities i have are the ones i choose do have – my job, my family and some friends. I never developed this “need” for intimacy so many people i know seem to have. I am fine to be alone, because i never feel lonely, i am happy with myself. I pay some woman to do the major household chores, it really is peanuts, she does it once per week.

Recently my family wants me to pursue a long-term relationship, so there is grand kids. Just for fun i looked at some dating sites. Oh. My. God. I am genuinely scared. The very idea to have to deal with these people that i could seriously date from an age perspective horrifies me. I would not mind some kids, i am good with kids, but not at that price. Everybody i know that is successful has been married, divorced, is somewhat miserable and in 90% cases has issues dealing with the children they can barely see. And yet, for some reason beyond me, most of these people have nothing better to do than to pursue  the next relationship that is destined to fail horribly, taking in some kids from other people, warping themselves around the whims of the woman they are together with and so on.

Glad to have found this site.

MGTOW should be a great resource for you. I  really had nothing like this at your age, and when (literally) the girl next door saw dollar signs in me, I was incredibly flattered.   A pretty 21-year-0ld walked all over me.   Now I pay her child support, she has primary custody of our kids (in name, so she can get more support — I have the kids just as much as she does in practice).

I strongly recommend you get a vasectomy.   Personally, I would also freeze some sperm, but that’s up to you.

You Avatar tells me that you are looking the right movies. Especially this one will save you to make the wrong decision.

Once he built Missiles a nations defence, now he can’t even give brithday presents…
                                                                                                                                                        Falling Down – Iron Maiden

CHEERS!!!

Welcome to our zone of sanity. Take what your family says about this with a grain of salt. They do not realize how dangerous modern feminism inoculated women are to men these days. Especially, to men in your situation. I suggest you read anything BrainPilot has written as you peruse the site.

I’m 47 and have never been married, own a business, own a house debt free and have investments. I’ve had some serious relations~~~s that almost led to marriage over the years, but I escaped them all by the grace of God. I enjoy life and would never sign a legal contract where I could lose the bulk of things I’ve spent 30 years working towards by some gold digging hypergamous wench.

d-fens wrote:

Recently my family wants me to pursue a long-term relationship, so there is grand kids. Just for fun i looked at some dating sites. Oh. My. God. I am genuinely scared.

Your family is pushing this for them and not you. As for online dating, be afraid very afraid.