A few years ago I was engaged, had a kid with my fiance, and was about ready to plunge into the 2.5 kids and a mortgage cliche storyline that we are all told we should one day strive to have when we grow up. That was all shattered when I caught her cheating on me. Like the beta chump I was, I had a severe case of oneitis and took her back. Several months went by before she said she didn’t love me anymore and wanted me to leave our house.

I acquiesced.

Over the next year I spent time taking care of my kid and trying to put my life back together. When my ex saw I was getting back on my feet and was starting to turn back into the man I was before I was neutered by my oneitis, she wanted me back. I told her to kick rocks. I didn’t want a relationship with her or with anyone else. I stayed single for a while before finally jumping back into the dating scene. It was awkward. I wanted someone to hang out with, cuddle with, get naked with, but not be emotionally invested in. I tried having a few girlfriends and couldn’t bring myself to ever commit to anything and I always kept my distance and when they wanted to get too close, I backed out. For a time I thought I was just damaged from the nasty breakup with my past relationship until I had a relationship that changed my mind.

I started hanging out with one my sisters friends. Hot, young model who wanted to have fun. We ended up being friends with benefits. We were  together for nearly a year and would grab drinks, go rock climbing, or hit up a club, go back to my place and f~~~ like rabbits, then she would go home in the morning. It was amazing. I cared about her as a friend, but nothing more. Our agreement was that if either of us found someone they wanted to date, we would end things and just be friends. That never happened but we eventually split things off when she moved out of state and still keep in touch to this day. She was the turning point that made me realize I could have what I wanted without having to commit to someone or something, without adhering to the typical boyfriend-girlfriend dating dynamic. I didn’t need to meet her family or remember to make dinner reservations for her birthday or give a s~~~ about her cat, listen to her bitch and moan about so-and-so coworker or any of that frivolous bulls~~~.

After that I tried to go back to dating but couldn’t get over how great my relationship was with the model. Other women wanted commitment but I didn’t. I broke a few hearts and got annoyed more than a few times.

Then I took the Red Pill and realized that what I was thinking and feeling was perfectly reasonable and normal. I didn’t need to adhere to the traditional dating archetype to have a woman in my life, but in fact I could have several women without sacrificing anything. The relationship I was so fond of that I had with the model could be my every day reality if I wanted. My response was “Sign me the f~~~ up”.

I went full Monk Mode and dumped most of the s~~~ty human-anchors from my life and focused on learning and improving. Here I am about 6 months later and I recently quit smoking and I’ve started working out again. I’m also in the process of buying my first house. The goal is improving my SMV and my life in all areas to live life my way. I’ve always worked hard to be a good dad and to be the man I always wished my dad would have been. I love my kid with all my heart but I realize I can’t live my life entirely for her and I’ve got to live it for me as well.  I’ve known for a long time that I wasn’t interested in what I was being sold, but instead of just knowing what I didn’t want, now I know what I want and am taking strides to make it a reality. I can finally be confident and say I’m a MGHOW. I can be proud to say that I refuse to play Chump Charming to some Prissy Princess who wants to run my life and then to take half of my kingdom for herself.

It feels weird welcoming someone here because I am fairly new here too, but welcome you are.

I have learned a lot since I arrived here, as I am sure u will too.  It has become a place where I can escape to and be myself and joke around and help and be helped.

Have fun here.  I am.

BVC

I spend time in /r/theredpill, read The Rational Male, and check into other RP related stuff which helps me understand philosophy and terminology better. It also helps that when I took the red pill, I was basically looking for the answers already, and the communities I found were simply the affirmation of what I had always hoped were true.

Your prime won’t even start till you hit 30, pace yourself correctly and enjoy this part of your life.

I know I’m just starting to hit my prime (I turned 29 last month) but I want to squeeze what I can out of life. I’m actually in a perfect position to launch my new life as a self actualized man and go from monk mode to beast mode. I’ve got a good job and make decent money, I’m  healthy-ish (average shape) and am restarting my old workout routine, I’m a good looking guy (probably a 7), I’m musically inclined, drive a sweet car, and I have pretty solid game provided I get a warm introduction. Cold game needs a ton of work though.

Anyway, I’m just really looking forward to realizing my potential and am glad to have taken the red pill that acted as the glue that held all the different things I’ve been working on in my life together as I narrowed (and continue to) them down into a single, focused direction rather than just flailing around haplessly hoping and praying that I’ll end up somewhere.

BVC don’t feel weird. I started replying to intros pretty quick, its how I met some of my favorite menbers.