Fairly newly married, have a young son to her.

She goes off and starts shouting in front of our son today. I ask her to stop raising her voice and calm down for his sake. After I ask her about 5 or 6 times to stop, I pick up my son and say I’m taking him to his grandmothers (so he didn’t have to listen to that crap).

I didn’t shout once at her. I don’t waste my energy on her anymore.

She picks up the phone and dials 999 (the emergency number, you know for emergencies…) and continues to shout down the phone and tells the operator that I’m abducting our son.

Police arrive, tell her to calm down and that I’m allowed to take my son anywhere I want. They suggest one of us leaves the home – which is exactly what I was trying to do before she called them.

Cop says he has to fill in a report and it will go to social services.

I was embarrassed the cops had to come to my quiet street and now just numb at what insanity happened this afternoon.

I want her gone but I want custody of my son.

I hate to cut my sympathy expression short but you need a game plan immediately. At this very moment, your wife and her best friends are plotting to take you down, take your assets, and your son.

Here’s what I would do if my girlfriend tried this with me (granted I don’t have a kid but still):

1. Start documenting all future interactions. This marriage is running on fumes now. Communicate via e-mail, text. When you talk via Skype, have a screen recorder/audio recorder on. When things are getting heated at home, have a pocket recorder. In many states, it’s legal to record if you’re a party to the conversation and you give consent to being recorded (i.e. you don’t need her consent). In states that it isn’t legal, it’ll still prove useful in trying to get her out quickly and quietly. When sending e-mails, express your maturity and nurturing capabilities. Say stuff like “Dear Wife, I took away the son because your words were hurting him a lot” etc. Make her send acknowledge and apologize via e-mail. This will help in court.

2. Start sharing your condition with your own friends. Right now, she’s building a sizable witness list. You need to do the same. Take your son with you to your friends and share what happened. Show that you’re a nurturing/caring/protective father.

3. Install hidden cameras. At this moment, you and your wife are in verbal confrontation. This has a high potential to escalate to her hitting you. She can hit you, and then claim you hit her when you call the cops. You need solid evidence to keep you from being imprisoned. If it’s just her word against yours, you ARE going to jail. Instead, what you want to do is this: record her hitting or otherwise being aggressive. Wait for her to call the cops. When she does, pull all the footage from the hidden cameras and show it to them. Then, charge her with falsification/harassment.

4. Separate financially. I mean it. Take out your share of cash from the joint accounts if you have them and put it aside. Deactivate credit cards that you’re sharing with her.

5. Start building some quality time with your son. You want your son to not be coachable by your wife and her attorney. Take him out on some amazing trips where you two can bond: fishing, biking, etc. Take pictures of you guys having fun. One night, sit him down and explain what is happening in simple terms. Tell him to not be afraid to tell the truth about what’s going on between mommy and daddy if anyone asks, and tell him that if anyone threatens him, he should say who did so in the court of law.

6. Get an Attorney. Explain everything and tell him that you want a strong case built before you file for divorce. Ask him what evidence would help build your case, protect your assets, and grant you custody.

7. Build your case over a few weeks/months.

8. File for Divorce.

9. Live happily ever after.

PS- Your wife WILL call and say she is sorry. Have a recorder ready. She may abuse you on the phone. This is all good evidence.

Best of luck.

Fairly newly married, have a young son to her.

I don’t want to sound like a jerk or anything like that but…. are you listening to any of this @The Road Warrior ?

DON’T LEAVE THE HOUSE. MAKE HER GO.

Keep your son in the house as that is what he is used to.

Don’t give any ground unless court ordered.

Record, film, keep ALL communications.

Get lawyer … but NOT a woman.

Get a bulldog lawyer that will rip her up.

We’re here.

Not much to say really.

Fairly newly married, have a young son to her.

She goes off and starts shouting in front of our son today. I ask her to stop raising her voice and calm down for his sake. After I ask her about 5 or 6 times to stop, I pick up my son and say I’m taking him to his grandmothers (so he didn’t have to listen to that crap).

I didn’t shout once at her. I don’t waste my energy on her anymore.

She picks up the phone and dials 999 (the emergency number, you know for emergencies…) and continues to shout down the phone and tells the operator that I’m abducting our son.

Police arrive, tell her to calm down and that I’m allowed to take my son anywhere I want. They suggest one of us leaves the home – which is exactly what I was trying to do before she called them.

Cop says he has to fill in a report and it will go to social services.

I was embarrassed the cops had to come to my quiet street and now just numb at what insanity happened this afternoon.

I want her gone but I want custody of my son.

Its imperative you get a police incident report ASAP. They need to file one, it may just be a few sentences but you need it. That document will show you’re not some abuser, since she will make that claim if you want your son after a divorce.

She called the cops because she knows how woman act and she thinks you’re doing what a woman does, abduct kids.