Here are the facts: I’m a good looking guy with the right online profile and pics and I get 0 dates from different dating sites, why is that?

The reason is that every girl who is at least “acceptable looking” gets on average 30 messages per day. They get so many that they don’t bother on visiting the sites or going though them, any message you send them won’t even be read, no matter if you’re a “hunk”.

In Mexico, online super loser ugly women or old single mothers use dating sites since society puts great shame on using these sites since just like in the USA women get too much attention from needy men regardless of how they look and so using dating sites for them is unnecessary. If you find an attractive profile in Mexico it’s probably a fake one to begin with.

In the USA as stated above, too many needy men giving them attention, empowering them with attention, the society is more individualistic so using dating site does come across women’s mind often and you can find a few attractive ones, but after being messaged 30 times per day again your chances of dating them are completely gone.

I never ever got a date from somebody I contacted online in the USA or MEX.

Now it was the turn of Europe, for the first time of my life (and being a good looking man) I got my first online date ever here in Prague, the girl in question was a cute 20 year old Russian. Russians I’ve found out are the most likely women to go out with you from online sites since they are direct, don’t play games and many don’t live in their motherland and since people don’t like them for being Russians then they don’t have social circles and are friendly and open to dating, but they are a rare exception.

Here I have gone on more online dates but mostly in sites where you don’t get to see the women and these turned out to be not so attractive. As far as contacting cute girls online, mostly the same, 0 dates after too much effort.

Now when it comes to Tinder, I had a friend who was getting many dates/banging girls from Tinder, he’s also one of those lucky 20/80 guys who gets all the women in any environment and of course also treats them as disposable things (which women love although they say they don’t, you know women logic)

So I pimped my Tinder profile with awesome shots of me surfing, some handsome shots, some social shots, and in about 2 months I’ve gotten more than 60 matches! How many dates have I actually gotten after that?   1,   1 stupid date out of 60 matches and hours of conversations that led nowhere, worst thing is that I’m using exactly the same lines/ideas that my 20/80 friend is using but he gets dates/laid all the time time and I don’t which seems to have no explanation.

Also if I have 60 matches, the reality is that attractive women get about 600 matches! Not only that, but on my quest to find answers I paid $5 to a “Tinder-Guru” who gave me a guide about what to say etc which in the end also didn’t make a difference but this guy says something that seems to be be screwed up and disturbing, which is:

Us men as logical creatures we use Tinder with the objective of getting a date/getting laid. I mean, after all it is a “Dating app” meant for “Dating”, pretty logical huh?

Well, according to this expert and which is probably true is that women don’t use Tinder with that purpose, for women, the objective of using Tinder is conversation, and the goal is conversation itself (women logic).

So of course his strategy is to keep the conversation going until stupid women realize “wow, I’ve spent many hours talking to this guy, he gets me, I feel a connection, I might allow him to go out with me”

This is of course, probably and sadly true. In the end as a male you have to invest hours of your life having conversation with multiple women with the hopes of she giving you permission to go out with her. Again, it is always women the ones with the power, and after all the effort and realizing that I’m 32 years old then I wonder “Is it really worth it?”, “To invest so many hours of my life sort of begging another human being of the opposite sex to have a human interaction with me?” “Are women really worth this prize?” After pondering on these things it once again made me realize that the purpose of finding a woman was just nonsense.

Why did I use Tinder or online dating on the first place anyways you ask? Well, I work as a freelance translator, work at home, all of my friends are married and their acquaintances are married so it’s not fun to hang out with them anymore nor then can provide single female acquaintances for me to meet, and this is the problem that people who are getting older always face in their social lives so Online dating seemed like the answer, but I guess not. Please coment.

Yep, that video sums it up alright. If I were into dating, I would use his strategy.

So basically your competition is inflated, and your target dating population’s self worth is inflated.  Plus you have to take into account that there are a ton more men than women on those sites.  Basically if you are a 7-8 in real life, that is used to dating 7-8s, don’t expect that online.  The 7-8s think they are all 10s, and they are chasing after guys that are feeding them the best line of s~~~.  Unless you want to settle for 3-4s online dating is going to largely be a waste of time.  You just end up wasting a lot of time sitting in front of a screen chatting with girls you probably aren’t going to be interested in much even if you get the chance to meet them…sure you might get lucky once in a great while but is it really worth the effort?  IMO your really better off joining some co-ed classes or leagues or something, at least people can’t hype themselves up as much when your actually meeting them in real life.

For instance, one of my best friends who is a she here in Prague is also on Tinder, and she’s a good girl, also I  saw a girl that my 20/80 friend was dating/banging for a month she was also on Tinder and I had a student from Lithuania who was really cute and she attended one of my meditation classes and never came back but I also saw her on Tinder.

So I came to the conclusion that everyone was on Tinder. The problem is that as I mentioned, women use it for conversation, not for dating, and they still have the upper hand, you have to lure them to accept a date which is too much effort and it makes me question weather it is worth it.

We all know dating dynamics are from the times of Jesus Christ and it doesn’t favor us, women always have the last opinion and the fact that they get approached anywhere is just a nightmare.

This, plus my experience with bad relationships plus seeing many guys being misserable when in a relationship, plus getting to know the crap that women have in their souls is what has driven me to stop chasing them.

It is a vicious cycle taught by society, my parents put lots of pressure on me getting married, they have even asked me if I’m gay, friends make fun of you if you don’t get enough women, my best friend is a 20/80 male that gets lots of pussy and he makes fun of me. In the end, I have to accept that I wasnt born to be a gigolo and that women dont really bring happiness, it’s just marketing.

By the way, I don’t know if you ever heard about the time women tried to be creative and create their own Tinder version. It’s called Siren and it was supposed to “Keep women in control” as if they weren’t already, and created a stupid feminist apt that had design and implementation bugs that not all the needy men in the world were able to fix. It turned out to be a fiasco, nothing worked, as expected:

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/artist-makes-a-feminist-dating-app-and-calls-it-siren/Content?oid=20548215