I guess all of you have heard versions of such rants… Mainly made by women complaining that marriage prospects are bleak for them. That men should man up, stop behaving like children etc etc…

Nothing new here. Until I stumbled upon a very interesting study that applies the same “marriageability criteria” to both men and women. My first impression was “all hail equality!”:

http://www.brookings.edu/blogs/social-mobility-memos/posts/2014/10/08-marriageability-employment-childbearing-sawhill

Interestingly the result is that, as always, media have it backwards! Truly marriageable women (no kids, employed etc…), under equal criteria, have a ratio of 162 to 100 in their favor. I thought I should bring it up here.

It confirms what I always thought and frankly, I am not even happy about it. The conclusion is AGAIN that the odds are rigged against men.

For a female, asking where all the good men are is just like going into a donut shop and asking “Where are all the good donuts?” The shop is f~~~ing FULL of donuts… you just don’t know how to choose one that’s good for YOU because none of them are dipped in gold and sprinkled with diamonds and that’s the only thing your kind is capable of recognizing as having any sort of value whatsoever.

I swear.

Of course, that doesn’t hinder people with psychology and sociology degrees to create their own distortion of reality. They don’t get anything.

Of course, females don’t want to do these things any more and claim that they would rather work for themselves than be kept by a man… and in this light, the only meaningful way a man can judge a female’s suitability for partnership is either how close to equal she is to him or the ratio of physical desirability to psychological tolerability she presents.

Setting aside for a moment the unequal and significant risk I would be incurring by signing a marriage contract, I’ve yet to meet a female who I felt was anywhere close to my equal in terms of intelligence, ambition and wealth generation ability, not to mention emotional stability, taste and style or any number of other criteria I might choose to apply. I’m not saying she doesn’t exist, just that I haven’t met her yet and I’ve been looking. So for me it really comes down to “how much do I desire her versus how much of a pain in the ass is it to have her around.”

You might guess how that’s working out.

1. Speaking from personal experience, the hairdresser (29) and the secretary (31) i dated were huge party animals. Nowadays, #yolo and party mentality is for everyone! It was successfully made so democratic that I might even think there is a correlation: low socio-economic status in a world that favors women education-wise = she wasted her youth in fruitless occupations. They are the mildly prettier girls/early bloomers that were too cool for school.

Perhaps women from such professions expect traditional roles because they don’t have a choice! It’s either “I am all traditional honey… You’re a lawyer right?”, or marry the plumber.
2. The most traditional girls are frankly quite educated. They come from solid 2 parents families, where the dad put them to school and made sure they did all their homework. The mom played her role too.

What do you think?

My marriage was struggling and due to circumstances we lived a distance apart. She wanted something better than a minimum wage job, so I suggested a trade. After thinking about her options, she decided to become a hair dresser, and I paid for her schooling.  In hindsight I kind of laugh about how I struck a death blow to my marriage doing this. It seemed so innocent at the time.

You have to keep in mind that women are VERY susceptible to the “hive mind”. I agree with Red, that most of those women just wanted to go out and “have fun” and party. I unwittingly sent my wife into a den of snakes.

I was only able to stay with her on the weekends, and the moment I stepped through the door she was already mad at me due to conversations she had with co-workers throughout the week. She’d start babbling about random stuff, and I’d look at her puzzled wondering where she came up with all that s~~~. As long as I’d known her, she hadn’t been or sounded like that.  By the time the weekend was over I’d manage to deprogram about 50% of the s~~~ they filled her head with, only to have her return to her job and pick up more of their garbage. She’d suddenly be unhappy over trivial things she’d never even considered before, and so on.

This is one of the things I’d warn younger guys who think they can find the golden NWALT.  Maybe you can find the perfect woman you agree with and she seems sane. But all that’s required is one bad apple in a group she falls in with years down the road, and she can go bad very quickly.

@docfenderson’s Quote of 2015 so far:  “For a female, asking where all the good men are is just like going into a donut shop and asking “Where are all the good donuts?” The shop is f~~~ing FULL of donuts… you just don’t know how to choose one that’s good for YOU because none of them are dipped in gold and sprinkled with diamonds…”

That’s the best analogy to describe “Where are all of the Good Men’ (WAATGM)!