I did not told my entire story but the title says it all. I am a virgin, a 24 year old virgin.

Since I discovered MGTOW the world shifted and turned upside down. Everything made sense since then.

I started this post mainly to hear what you guys have to say about my situation. Sometimes the whole subject (women, relationships, etc) turns a bit confusing. I never had sex with a girl, not even a blowjob. The good thing is that I can explain why:

After I turned 17 and went to the gym girls started to approach. I could say I do well with women, whenever I set eyes on a girl I know there is a 60% chance she is interested. It seems I have good eye or select women that I know are attracted to me.

What I did always worked. But I was afraid of being aggressive and do what I wanted: F~~~ them. Its was like all my feminized childhood beliefs started to say “you should respect her” “if she doesn’t want to f~~~ its okay, give her time” What I did not know was that most women do not take the initiative. I am sure they wanted to be f~~~ed but I was scared of “ruin it”.

I was in situations where I could have had sex but was not agressive enough, so it all ended in nothing.

So this pretty sums it all. It´s weird being a virgin MGTOW. I know what women are capable of, that they are not worth all of our efforts. But if I never tasted the “prize” how can I know is not worth it? I mean, I know it because of the stories all of you share here, and because I see relationships falling apart around me. But not because I experienced it.

I sometimes want to have sex with a woman, to experience it. But I don´t want to deal with all their crap.

Hope to hear from you guys.
(As always, sorry for my english)

But you know what, this term virgin doesn’t really work on men, especially MGTOWs. Because, 1. Men don’t have a f~~~ing flower to get deflowered to begin with and 2. When you have your hand that does the the job way more efficiently than any woman ever could, plus is risk free, pregnancy free and will never ever say “NO” so why bother?

“But if I never tasted the “prize” how can I know is not worth it?”

Simple. You don’t need to personally murder someone to know that its’ WRONG.

You don’t need to personally sign a marriage contract to know that it fails a cost/benefit analysis.

You don’t need to personally be dragged through a miserable divorce either.

You don’t need to personally shag 1, 30 or 100 women to know that her “price” is too high – or it’s not worth it.

In fact… the only chance sex that IS worth it, is when there is no price (or condition) attached to it. Because she is getting laid too.

All this is important, because there is a genuine misconception that MGTOW are nothing but a bunch of incels (involuntary celibates). But even the male virgin who voluntarily decides – in advance – that it’s not worth it is not an incel. He has merely determined it fails a cost/benefit analysis.

I have only used escorts my whole life and the experience for me was , eh. When I finally had sex it was nothing special and seemed kinda boring. I regret having sex now because if I did not I would be able to call myself a virgin, and that would be awesome. But I would suggest to make up your own mind, use an escort if you want to try it, if you are worried about becoming addicted to it like some sort of drug remember this. Even one hit  of heroin is not enough to get you addicted. For what it is worth sex is lame save your virgin title and wear it proudly.

You see, I had an extremely conservative upbringing. My family was(and still is) deeply steeped in ancient ideologies and traditions and even though not all of it were bad but they were extremely restrictive nonetheless. We were taught to place our family and honour before ourselves. By the time I reached adulthood I had transcended most of those conservatisms but at the same time being open minded individual I did recognise the importance of some of those traditional values, so I decided to incorporate them in to my set of principles.

One of those principles is about being a hardcore monogamist. I’m yet to meet a single person who agrees to this principle of mine though. Being a hardcore monogamist means I have decided that I would not put my penis up for sale. Just like sexual exclusivity in a relationship, my sexual exclusivity in life will be with that woman I decide to spend the rest of my life with. Now do not consider me deluded with the concept of the perfect woman. There is no such thing as a perfect human being and I have no such unrealistic expectations. Rather the right woman for me should be someone who is more human than a woman. She definitely must be flawed but there should be absolute compatibility with me not just physically and mentally but spiritually as well. I am pretty sure I’ll never find anyone like that but I am not exactly wasting my time looking either. I am just trying to enjoy life Going My Own Way. So you see, virginity for me is more of a choice than anything else.

I am not an involuntary celibate either because in my lifetime I’ve had sex offered to me way more than I have wanted and strangely enough most were from women who were much older to me. From a piano teacher who intentionally unbuttoned the top of the blouse to make her cleavage visible and placed her hand on my lap and uncomfortably close to my crotch while showing me a chord or two, to distant relatives, newly wed wife of a friend(whom I made a post about in the Relations~~~s section), next door neighbours(about whom I’ll make a post soon if find things going out of hand), and household helps(maid/housekeeper) one of whom after failing to lure me with all her antic decided to do a little striptease in my room only to lose her job. Could’ve ruined her pretty badly and even get her arrested but she was deadbeat with a 2 year old kid and I was just too lucrative an insurance policy that would have solved all  her problems. Gotta admire her survival instincts.

So you see I am not exactly an Incel but I see life as it comes down to two choices, what anyone else in my shoes would’ve done and what I would do.

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—   
I took the one less traveled by,   
And that has made all the difference.”
-The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost.

Your worth as a person is not defined by sex or having a significant other.

If it happens, it happens. Please remember our warnings and proceed with caution.

@cap285
Thanks Cap.I know. The thing is this natural necesity we all have or had. But I will not move an inch to be with a woman. If I can get it  for free and without doing nothing  I´ll do it. But if I have to work for a pussy, forget it.