I (much to my own vanity) exclaim: “The thing is, I love to create stuff, I’m a creator, you just f~~~ everything up, you’re a destroyer”

She looked dumbfounded.. shocked.. Had I just seen through her again manipulative attempts to keep me locked into a relationship lying to myself and rationalizing that nothing was askew. It was enough. She finally agreed to leave, but only as I started picking up her stuff, ready to throw it out. I had already threatened to call the cops, that she was now “invading private property” or what could ever just maybe get through to her that it was over.

At first glance, besides my mention that something could have been “askew” this doesn’t sound like a story about cheating.. It is.

She was 20, a spoiled brat from a socialite area of Harajuku/Shibuya area, now here in the US studying English. My Japanese had gotten rusty since my homestay in Japan as a kid 10 years back around 2003-2004. (I’m 22 now) I already had broken this emotionally fueled nightmare off a few times but always fell to her sucking me back in. Shiori was her name, ironically the way you spell her name in Japanese is the same Kanji (character) for bookmark. It was all pretty f~~~ed, when there is a language barrier, it’s even easier for a girl to keep secrets. Regardless, the pain was my fault. I know that now, maybe even as I’m writing this. I should have dumped this wretched creature long ago.

But alas, I’m on a new path now. Setting out for myself as it was supposed to be before I let her cozy me into the comfy blankets of stagnation and mediocrity. She didn’t even want me to work out, I’m overweight at about 180-185 lbs for my height of 5’8. It sickens me that a girl would rather keep someone less sexually attractive than if they were in shape just to deny them the possibility of being sexual potential interest for other girls. Anyways, she f~~~ed up my social reputation pretty bad, saying stuff like I’m Bipolar and even convinced someone who was an old friend of mine. My mom does have bipolar and i’ve grown up in a pretty dysfunctional family. Alcoholic abusive mother, neglective workaholic father, absent brother. But I’ve been seeing a therapist, as I have periodically from time to time since being a young boy. I don’t have any severe mental illness, I have ADD and may be near the eccentric side but nothing that could be considered Disproportionate Emotional Reactions.

Felt like I could have organized this intro a little better but am good for now. Hope to see what you guys are up to with your lives, Cheers..

-Ryan Reformed

I already had broken this emotionally fueled nightmare off a few times but always fell to her sucking me back in.

Theres always a reason why things end, splitting up and getting back together is ignoring those reasons in response to endorphins and oxytocin. Covering up a hole in the wall with a picture, the issues are always going to be there. Well done on breaking that cycle

Dont worry too much about your introduction here, many of us have been through similar situations and understand well enough what isnt said or how its said.

Welcome to MGTOW

The thing is, I love to create stuff, I’m a creator, you just f~~~ everything up, you’re a destroyer

Epic.

Ima remember that one.

Welcome to MGTOW, Ryan.

 ironically the way you spell her name in Japanese is the same Kanji (character) for bookmark.

I read somewhere that in Mandarin, the character for “woman” when written three times in a triangle, means “conspiracy”

ya dude it’s f~~~ed.. I was so comfortable too.. She’d do typical japanese girlfriend stuff at the same time.. She’d cook for me, and was overall pretty submissive..

I wasn’t just leaving the sex, i was leaving being pampered to a degree.. Nonetheless, she was dishonest and really sneaky, I think alotta guys get this idea that Japanese

girls are awesome girlfriends etc.. and they can be (much better than American usually) but still it’s time to depart from this deceptive stereotype that they’re perfect little

sex machines that want to fufill your every wish. They tend to be very manipulative (not just my personal experience in regards to this one individual) but in my experiences

having dated many Japanese girls and having friends who have as well.  In Japanese culture they have two modes of social interaction, 本音(honne) and 建前 (tatemae). Essentially the way you act outwardly keeping a positive-neutral and always polite appearance, and never ‘rocking-the-boat’ in the collective culture, and honne, your true feelings, how you act deep down. I think it should be understood that Japanese culture puts an emphasis on social harmony at the expense of true genuine social experience. At the risk of making a hasty cultural generalization, I’d go as far as to say that Japanese people (if they want to be) can be adapt manipulators as lying is an essential part of the culture. Now, this isn’t the type of lying that’d always be considered awful or unghastly such as in terms of whore (Shiori, cited above) or anything like that. Typically it’s telling people you aren’t available if you don’t like them, or that you are super interested in whatever lame hobby they are into.. (I heard a group of Japanese people act tatemae and pretend that this girl was really well-versed in culture, just because she showed some pictures of herself at the Eiffel Tower). I think it’s interesting to me as I’ve read MGTOW has really caught the ranks in Japan though I’d argue it’s not for the same reasons as the United States and other Western societies, sadly this social dichotomy in place in Japanese culture has led to many men becoming asocial (with everyone, not just women)

random side note: I’m not really an ‘anime’ guy or into manga or what is generally considered Otaku (nerdy) culture, I got interested in Japan through martial arts as a young lad. Lol even white people that speak japanese get a stereotype. oh well, f~~~ it i’m having ramen for breakfast. Cheers!

Sorry, total ramblings here, sadly I couldn’t get the reply to work for individual posts.

when there is a language barrier, it’s even easier for a girl to keep secrets

So true. It’s almost like, if they don’t say it in their native tongue, then it doesn’t matter if its true.

And f~~~ if this is not the exact same thought that runs through my head daily.

Setting out for myself as it was supposed to be before I let her cozy me into the comfy blankets of stagnation and mediocrity.

They fall in love with you because you are extraordinary, and want to domesticate you into some average f~~~.

Welcome, may you live long and prosper.