Long time lurker, but new member here.

Just thought I’d share my MGTOW background and my current situation.

First of all, compared to some of you guys and the horror stories you’ve shared with us, I’ve been pretty fortunate.

I’m 36, never married and no kids, and I’ve been living what you could call a MGTOW or semi-MGTOW lifestyle for around 10 years. I’m from the UK, but I lived in France for 6 years on my own in a tiny apartment doing a job I enjoyed, participating in lots of sport and exercise and eating well, and paying off the remaining student loan and credit card debt I accumulated when I was in the UK (all gone now : ).
During this time I sometimes went home to visit old friends and go to their weddings, when the inevitable questions would be asked. I continually stressed that I was completely happy with my situation, didn’t really crave or miss sex or female company, and that it was highly unlikely that I would be getting married or having kids in the future.

I’ve often been dismissed by some as a bit of a loser who can’t get laid etc. but this has never bothered me as I have always focused on what’s good for me and my well being. Any relationships that I did have during this period fizzled out mainly due to apathy on my part, and I’ve concluded that although definitely not gay or asexual, I seem to have a less fiery drive compared to some guys who simply cannot live without pussy even for a few days, and even if it means chasing a boot (my word for a fat 2 or 3) and showering with her with praise that she in no way deserves.

Although I am attracted to women and watch porn occasionally, I never feel the overwhelming sexual urges that some guys have where they simply have to act on them no matter what, and I see this as a bit of a blessing, as it enables me to get on with other things more easily and be efficient in my job and focus on my hobbies without investing all my time and money in the often futile activity of chasing women.

My current situation however is a little different. I was transferred to China with work 2 years ago. I find I’m more attracted to Asian women than Europeans / Americans, but despite this my MGTOW mindset has remained intact. I had a casual relationship with a Chinese girl last year, but as soon as she started getting needy and then aggressive, she was out – classic case of a woman going out with guy because of what she could gain, and not because of how interested she was in the guy himself. Though I am still dating, it’s all on my terms. In any case I’ve read and watched far too much MGTOW material now to ever cohabit, marry or have children. It’s all about staying in control, and with marriage you lose that control, as many men have unfortunately discovered.
If any of you have any questions about moving to a foreign country, or anything else you want to discuss, then it would be great to hear from you.

Good day to you all

I only wish I was where you are now at your age.

I’m strapped for time right now … but great intro and we’ll speak soon.

The others will be here shortly ☺

I have not been to West Virginia, no. I’ve not been to the US for years, but I’d love to go again sometime.

As a side note, I married a Chinese girl and dated a good few other Asians before her. I understand what you mean by opportunistic and then aggressive. They’re similar to Western women but a lot more sly and then over the top aggressive when they don’t get what they want.

Looking forward to having some good discussions with you. DO NOT follow my path!

I’m currently 38 and my urges are lessor than they were five years ago. While I still enjoy sex, it doesn’t rule my life. I don’t need a woman and I stay in control of my life. I can clearly assess a bad situation when I see one and I stay clear of it. Just the way I like it.