• “I caught you looking at her”.
• “I saw you smiling at her”
• “I saw the way you were talking to her”.
• “I CAUGHT you….”

….and my personal favorite….

• “How do I know I can trust you?”

That question alone is grounds for immediate ejection – with no remorse. Punch that ejector seat button with your fist. She thinks she can say 8 words and now you’re expected to stand on your hind legs and PROVE that she can trust you. The female perception of “trust” vs. “respect” is totally ass backwards.

To a woman, “respect” should be given – and “trust” is earned. Bulls~~~.
The last time a woman said “how do I know I can trust you?”, I just laughed at her.

They love to start questions that way:

• “How do I know you’re not a rapist?”
• “How do I know you’re telling me the truth?”
• “How do I know you’re not a serial killer.?”

My ears opened to that s~~~ in about 2007 when I invited a chick back to my place – who seemed to be quite lovely! – until she asked “how do I know you’re not a serial killer?”. To me, this was the most disgusting and repulsive question to ask on a date — on a romantic date where she wants a man to take an interest in her. To which I remained calm and replied with a smile:

“How do you know I AM???”

She was speechless. She doesn’t know that I am. She just expected me to PROVE that I am not. I reflected that back to her. Now the choice is hers. She can come over, or she can leave. Of course, she ended up coming over anyway. This was how I ended up dumping her. I made her SICK of hearing it. I brought up that “serial killer” thing over and over again.

I’m not going to jump through hoops to PROVE I am NOT a serial killer. What arrogance to assume that I am now required to prove I am not something she imagined in her head. Clearly, she was out of her f~~~ing mind. By answering her that way, I deflected that s~~~ test back at her and required HER to prove that I am.

“How do I know I can trust you?”

“You don’t. Leave.”

“How I know you’re not a serial killer?”

“How do you know I AM???”

“How I know you’re not a rapist?”

Easy. YOU get up and leave here there. And don’t look back. Done.

Nobody requires trust to be “earned”. Especially women.

Women tell the most intimate secrets and details of their personal lives to complete strangers. They don’t need “trust” to be earned. Women keep secrets like they’re poisonous. It’s a hell of a lot easier to tell a perfect stranger, bartender, hairdresser, the person sitting next to you on a plane, anything you want about your life. Even the most intimate details. Why? Because they can’t hurt you. Your wife can. Your boss can. Your friends can. Your lover can. Except those perfect strangers can’t… because they don’t give a s~~~.

Trust is (and must be) freely given until it is abused.
You HAVE to give it away. OR of course you can choose not to.

YOU HAVE to go through your life “trusting” that when you have a cheeseburger, someone with a gun isn’t going to come in to MacDonald’s and open fire. You are forced to face your day trusting that cars driving in the opposite direction are not going to cross those lines and kill you at any time. Because they can. You don’t run around to every person or car you pass asking that f~~~ed question “how do I know I can trust you?”. You either DO…. or you DON’T. This game of expecting men to prove the are trustworthy to the sex that commits paternity fraud is the most laughable concept. I don’t know how women expect to get away with it!

Don’t ever fall for that s~~~ from women.

Trust me.

The funny thing is, after moving out into my own place…she tried this s~~~ a few times and just got mostly ignored for a few years.  I didn’t care enough to argue with her or fight with her, and since I didn’t have to live in the same house as her all I had to do was hang up the phone and not pick it up when it was her number on caller id and she was out of my life.  Literally the only contact I had with her was at family gatherings, like holidays and stuff, and I’d try to keep it to a minimum.  She eventually got the hint that I wasn’t going to deal with her s~~~ anymore, and now actually acts like a normal person with me…but even still, after 10+ years of treating me like total s~~~ I’m still not very close to her, and of course its my fault and I should go to counseling with her lol.

Its like Russky said…the less that men are willing to put up with this s~~~ the less women will do it.  Its just when there are so many manginas who deal with it, its easier for a woman to just go find a mangina than to have to deal with someone who flat out tells her act like an adult or leave.  Its also one more fantastic reason to not get married.  Once they know they own you financially they know they can get away with more s~~~ like this because leaving her comes at a heavy price.  If you refuse to marry and can drop them at any time with no financial butt rape, its just one more pawn on your side of the board and one less on hers.

The video is spot on, especially the whole how do I know I can trust you line.  I felt I could prove it to her, because she really could trust me.  And that is the trap that I fell into and it turned my life into a living hell for years.  Every day, being interrogated about women I saw or might have seen, any billboard with a model, TV and movies – the only way to prove she could trust me was for me to completely withdraw from the world around me.  I was totally under her control.

Fortunately for me that kind of servitude could not go on forever,  and when I started to give up trying to prove myself trustworthy, like walking down the street with my head up high (the nerve!), exposing my feeble man-brain to all the visual temptations of the world. Well… once she started loosing control it was downhill from there.

It is amazing how different trust is in other sophisticated relationships.  The level to which I trust my business partners, and how easy it is to move forward past the mistakes that are inevitably made.  Or back when I worked in construction and we trusted each other to work safely and with equal effort. The trust and respect is always present and is never in need of being proved –  it would be impossible to get anything done if it were.