MGTOWSo I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today.. – MGTOW https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/feed/ Tue, 09 Jun 2020 00:38:37 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=2.5.14-6684 en-US https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/page/457/#post-16728 <![CDATA[So I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today..]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/page/457/#post-16728 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 13:05:26 +0000 UKMgtow Hi all,

This is just a dumb little post about something that happened today. All of mylife, both at home growing up and at university everything has always been pretty close to me, so the cost of driving never really seemed worth it to me, so I’d walk or get a bus/train.  I want to break in to recruitment or employment upskilling as a job and it turns out that a lot of these posistions you need to drive, so I am in the process of learning right now but until then, busses it is. So I went to town this morning to buy some food/essentials for the week(as well as a couple of nicer peppered steaks, which are amazing 😀 but I digress)

All of my life I was indoctrinated  taught that it was polite for one to let the elderly and women on the bus before you get on,  as to allow them a seat if one is available. Now, don’t get me wrong, if someone is with a crutch/cast, is obviously too old to stand comfortably or is far along in a pregnancy(although that last one is getting sketchy for me these days) I will happily give up my seat for them but I am at the point now where if you are able bodied, you can wait your turn like anyone else but the whole “let women on first” always stuck with me, and I always acted on it as if it was an automatic response.

Today though, was different, after finding out about, and deciding to become a MGTOW, I decided as a baby step, this was the first thing that was going to change. So, I got the bus stop, I was the first one there and was carrying three bags of shopping and I saw it, a woman, middle age probably about 35 – 45 holding nothing but a handbag comes to the bus stop and I knew then my pointless game was afoot! A couple more people arrive, I listen to some music, I pat a passing dog and have a chat with the owner and then, five or so minutes later we see it, the bus comes driving down the road, everyone else at the stop remains still while me and the lady both inch closer to the curb, ready to board.

We both look at each other and smile, we both know whats going on here, she expects to be let on first, everyone else expects me to let her go first but not this time! The bus slowly crawls to a stop and in my mind it’s like the wild west at this point, last to draw loses, to the victor goes the choice in seating location. Then, the doors open, we meet eyes again and I smile at her, she moves to get on but then BOOM! JOHN WAYNE, SUCKA! I, with cat like relexes walk on first, seeing the wide eyed look of surprise on her face as  I get on.

Now,  I know that story may have seemed like nothing to a lot of you, but as someone who grew up being raised by an aunt, a sister, a mother, a grand mother, and a VERY old school “be a gentleman” grand father(my dad f~~~ed off somewhere when I was born I guess but that’s for a different post) I was taught that no matter what I do, I should treat women with respect, with manners and make sure that are happy and comfortable and to finally take this admittedly tiny step of doing something as simple as not letting a woman cut in line and get on a bus first was a big deal for me. it was cold, my  stopping was heavy and so I put my comfort first, above that of a woman and you know what, it felt damn good 😀 Again, sorry if you feel reading this was a waste of time, I hope you at least got some entertainment from it 🙂

 

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https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-16782 <![CDATA[Reply To: So I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today..]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-16782 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 17:45:14 +0000 flamesabers Hello UKMgtow,

It’s good to hear you’re walking away from your indoctrination.  I don’t think one even has to be a MGTOW to stop adhering to this ‘ladies first’ nonsense.  I look at it from an equality standpoint.  It’s impossible to treat both sexes equally if one sex is still getting preferential treatment.  There have been podcasts of men calling women out on this, and so far it seems the only response women can muster for demanding special treatment is “because that’s the way it’s always been done.”

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https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-16825 <![CDATA[Reply To: So I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today..]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-16825 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 20:05:29 +0000 UKMgtow Hi Flamesabers,
That’s the biggest problem for me with modern women and feminism, the hypocrisy of saying they what special treatment that benefits them to stick around, but if “the way it’s always been  done” doesn’t  benefit them any more they throw a s~~~ fit; they want all of the benefits of the old ways and none of the drawbacks. It’s like going on a date with a girl who keeps saying how strong and independent she is and then breaking in to tears when you telling her you’re splitting the check ha.

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https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-16931 <![CDATA[Reply To: So I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today..]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-16931 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 04:17:05 +0000 Black Knight LMAO all I could think was… f~~~ yeah.

Women open the doors for me all the time at the college I attend. They are thristy.

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https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-17000 <![CDATA[Reply To: So I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today..]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-17000 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 13:19:56 +0000 @ukmgtow:

Great job!! I did something similar to one at a grocery store checkout line a few weeks ago.  It’s the entitled expectation of submitting to their whims that grinds on me.  We are engaged in a campaign of disobedience to feminism, and each time we collectively do little things like this we strengthen our position.

F~~~ these little entitlement princesses’ feelings as they don’t give a flying rat’s ass about ours.

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https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-17229 <![CDATA[Reply To: So I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today..]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-17229 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 08:23:33 +0000 TheBard Good for you. I have stopped doing things like that for women too. They aren’t so special so they don’t deserve any special treatment. Last year at Fanime during the shuttle ride back to the hotel my friend and I were sitting but he gave up his seat so a woman could sit. I on the other hand didn’t give my seat to on woman because I got on the bus before them so naturally I get the seat. Also I didn’t realize it until after the con while looking at facebook pictures, but that night on the bus I am pretty sure I was sitting next to this feminist who started yelling at me on facebook and telling me I wasn’t allowed to have an opinion about Wonder Woman in film because I was a man lol.

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https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-17232 <![CDATA[Reply To: So I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today..]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-17232 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 08:34:20 +0000 Stargazer I liked it. Whenever I can get a female to hold the door open for me, I take it and I smile and I thank them very cordially. But unless someone is actually carrying something or is literally two steps behind me, I just walk on through and let the door close behind me. Sorry ladies, as far as I’m converned, equality begins at the door.

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https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-19431 <![CDATA[Reply To: So I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today..]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-19431 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 18:50:51 +0000 Rennie I hold the doors out of politeness to anyone, since I wouldn’t want it slamming in their face, but would never just because they were a woman.

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https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-19839 <![CDATA[Reply To: So I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today..]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-19839 Wed, 04 Feb 2015 21:28:37 +0000 jsummer979 I love this topic. Because it seems so simple but it’s so symbolic. And there can be a high frequency of repetition. I install cable and am in a work van daily, and stop at alot of convenience stores. I have no good stories on that yet as I have only dreamed so far, about having a camera and studying the door habits of people and even women in particular. I should at least document on paper. ( usually just to busy getting through my day to think to do it). But often I pay for my items at the counter then head out the door. ONLY TO BE FACED WITH A WOMAN COMING IN AT THE SAME TIME. GODDAMMNIT! 85% of the time I can see an expectation of chivalry in her eyes (I live in the deepsouth). And being that they at that time are on top of the door, I would normally cave to local custom and open the door for them……….. well, just so happens that the door wings the other way (outwardly). And as she is not making the move to pull open the door for me, and pushing open the door for her while I am standing inside would be awkward (but it is done), I just push through the door. When those times happen, I try to remind myself to always scan for oncoming women in the future as to avoid meeting them at the door. (one of those things I would like to video from a distance to later study).

I took a trip recently to Chicago area with my ex, escorting our daughter to an audtion nearby. My ex and I went into Chicago for half day while daughter was in audition. On the train ride back to car park, we were all sitting (3 in group, two females with me) and the car was somewhat crowded. A fairly young couple got on. the man had one of those baby  slings with an infant in it. I did offer him my seat and he took it. His female stood. That was cool.

 

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https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-20946 <![CDATA[Reply To: So I didn't let a woman on the bus before me today..]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/so-i-didnt-let-a-woman-on-the-bus-before-me-today/#post-20946 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:01:45 +0000 ngghow Well done man, this is like remembering not to fall into the trap of listening to womens s~~~ and letting them dump on you as it can be deeply ingrained behaviour. I’ll have to keep this in mind and think about my own behaviour at the bus stop and on the bus as I know I’ve done the “gentleman” s~~~ on the bus before, like letting a woman and her kid sit in the disabled seats instead of continuing to sit there myself and I’ve let women on the bus before me as well. F~~~ it they can wait their turn and I’ll save my legs, and I’ll sit in the disabled seats at the front until a disabled person needs it. Thanks for mentioning it as I think knowing is half the battle. I wonder how much of this s~~~ do we do just because someone said we should or because it’s habit..

As for holding doors,  I’m sure I’ve held a door enough times just long enough for someone else to brace it but I don’t think I’m doing more than that for a woman nowadays apart from during my naive late teens and early twenties and I won’t be doing that ever again. In fact I think the next time I take a woman out I’m going to take the best seat too. Just get in there quick before she realizes and watch her face when she does.

Now I think about it there’s that reflex of passing over a lighter when a woman’s looking for a light as well, the amount of times I’ve passed a lighter and I even once lit the thing for a woman as well (sickening), and worse yet gave a quick whistle to a woman who was looking for a light to get her attention and got told (with her back facing me) not to whistle at her like a dog (a male friend of hers actually set her right but she never bothered to even look at me or apologize for her attitude). But luckily I’m giving up smoking and down to about 4 or 5 a day so hopefully that’s never a problem again. If it ever is then  –  “I don’t have a light. Stay away, I never carry more than £40 on me and I have nothing left now I swear!”

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