Her: No its not. U not being the husband u should have been is the reason ive lost everything. People make mistakes u have made a few urself. And trust me I have not used an excuse one time about finding a job until today.

me: youre manipulative, you try to get what you want the wrong ways by saying anything or doing anything. I see clean through it.</span>

me: dont make it so obvious with your next boyfriend he might stay around longer

Her : Im never dating again. And no I dont ur so mean

txt after quitting job

me : you want it, you talk to seth still as much as me. But hey its like the monkey in the tree. You cant let go of one branch till you got a good grip on the other

her : I do talk to seth but thats bc he says hes gonna kill himself. Ive been staying right down the road at missy house. Thats where I stay all the time. And I dont want to divorce. But I know our marriage is f~~~ed beyond repair and I understand why u filed for divorce.

me: o so hes got a mental disorder too?

there is no quote from her that matters anymore.

try to focus on this: You’re not trying to indict or convict her of being what she is. You’re not trying to prove her guilt or to get her to acknowledge it. You’re not trying to confront her about it or to get even with her for it. You’re trying to get out.

Look at it this way. You’re in a building and the lights start to flicker. The air in the building is getting suddenly and strangely warmer. You hear foot steps running in the hallway. You detect the faint smell of smoke. You hear sirens in the distance coming closer, and you hear people screaming…

You KNOW the building is on fire. You know it’s too far out of control to contain the fire. The building is lost. You also know that the longer you stay, the more damaging and painful to you that it will be. Do not waste time arguing about who started the fire, how it started, who’s job it was to prevent the fire… NONE of that stuff matters. What matters is: getting the f~~~ out!

Stay low and move as quickly as possibly to the exit. Focus ONLY on that. There is nothing in the building worth slowing down for to try to save, and there is no conversation worth slowing down for. If you are asked a question, give whatever answer moves you most efficiently toward the exit. If you are given any kind of choice, choose the one that moves you most efficiently toward the exit. Do not stop or slow down to reminisce about better times in that building. Do not stop for mad people. Do not stop for happy people. DO NOT STOP.

Focus ONLY on the exit signs and do not allow anything to distract you or otherwise slow you down. Your emotions may be stormy, mixed up and confusing. Think of the finalized divorce as the exit sign and just continue to navigate to that.

What the f~~~ are you doing reading and answering text messages (from an arsonist) while standing in a burning building?

Get the f~~~ out! Later, years from now, you can have some long philosophical text message exchanges about how the fire started, who started it…whatever. Right now, focus on getting the f~~~ out of the building!

🙂

When you have a minute, go and survey the topic threads “worst lie a woman ever told you” and “most irrational thing a woman’s ever said to you”. the most irrational one was my original contribution… <taking bow>

We’ve all seen that crazy ass estrogen fueled insanity… you are definitely not alone…

Stay focused on the exit. Let her be in denial and bargaining as long as you can to get as far through the exit as you can before she sees that bargaining aint gonna work. Because at that point, she’s going to get angry. And that’s when some really crazy s~~~ can go down. Hopefully, you’ll be gone and beyond her reach by then…