Have a MANLY day!

(shudder, gasp) – Christ!  I sound like a WOMAN!!  I best be gettin’ to the doc and get some testosterone pills post-haste.

Yeah, what’s up with that?  I’ve been out of town the past week+ and haven’t been on much.  Now I’m back and seeing upstanding members such as yourself down-voted.  WTF?  Well ultimately I could care less if anyone dislikes my opinions.  I don’t give a f~~~.  I paid a steep price to have my opinions.  I doubt anyone who dislikes my opinions could hack the s~~~ I’ve been through.  I’m not here for a popularity contest.

@unencumbered

Hey we are ultimately human beings and we are not exempt from feeling things both positive and negative.  Don’t let anyone try to tell you that your feelings are invalid.  If they are real to you then they are valid.  Same goes for any brother here.  Don’t buy in to the shaming bulls~~~.  If you feel it, own it!

Now I can’t say I’ve ever experienced anything on the level of shell shock (I refuse to use the phrase post-traumatic stress disorder… it’s f~~~ing shell shock) but I have felt savaged by a betrayal and, as a result, both angered to the point of wanting revenge while also becoming afraid and over-protective against the possibility of it happening again.

Let’s call this condition “She’ll Shock”… the state of mind created by being used, abused or betrayed by a female that makes it difficult for a man to trust other females. I am definitely experiencing this state of mind at this very minute and it colors how I interact with all females.

Is it stressful or painful? Not so much. Is it detrimental to my effectively functioning on a day to day basis? Not particularly. Has it diminished my ability to be in a “normal” relationship? You bet your sweet ass it has. But the question is “Is that such a bad thing?”

She’ll Shock, like its military counterpart, is not a failure of the human psyche to adequately process a normal situation, it is a defense mechanism that tells us to stay the f~~~ away from the battlefield for the preservation of our own minds and bodies. The only way it becomes problematic is if there’s someone constantly trying to slap a helmet on your head and a gun in your hand and push you back out into the dirt, smoke and noise.

If I went on OKCupid or to a family wedding today, I do believe I would be traumatized and either want to speak out negatively against what I was seeing or run away from it… so I simply avoid the battleground and I’m just fine.

In any case, it’s not really fair to compare the emotional devastation that relationships can induce with that of combat. Very few of us have seen friends and comrades blown to bits on a bad date… it’s happened, to be sure, but it’s rare. So for romance, at least, it’s possible to simply stay away from future conflict and lead a perfectly functional life. I’m not so sure it’s all that easy for men who have experienced shell shock, say, to sit through a 4th of July Fireworks event as it is for me to sit through a chick flick or to watch a battered husband get pushed around in a grocery store. Those things infuriate me, but I have the luxury of checking out whereas that veteran probably doesn’t.

But – yeah doc, I relate.  When I see couples in public (man and woman couples) I definitely have a different ‘view’ now.  The folks / comments /sharing on this website have kind of allowed me to start putting the puzzle pieces together.  My suspicions about most women are being confirmed (about their true intentions) and the vague gnawing feeling about ‘something not quite square with her’ are being brought to the fore and exposed for what they are.

I don’t want to believe that ALL women are deceitful, lying, manipulative, crazy, self-centered, egotistical, misandrists (sp?) – but I am having a hard time finding one example that debunks this belief.   Very sad, very sad indeed.