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Paying for a daughter's wedding

narwhal — Mon, 01 Jun 2015 17:27:20 +0000

My daughter is only 8, so it’s not really something I’m concerned about right now. However, I was thinking about potential ‘obligatory’ expenses I may have still remaining in my life. Being asked to pay for a potential wedding for my daughter is one of them. I really don’t want to throw money away like that, so I was wondering how I could approach this. Here’s 3 ideas.

1 – Simply don’t do it. Claim equality and such and get others to pay for it…or have a cheap wedding. This is likely to turn me into a villain, which I’d really rather not do.

2 – Go for destination weddings only. I’ve been to one of these before and had a blast. Cost wise, it’s likely to be cheaper (everyone pays their own flight and rooms). The more of what your spending money on is more a week long party then just a wedding anyway. I can live with that.

3 – Provide an incentive program instead of a wedding. Tell my daughter she has 3 options. First, call off the wedding now and get an immediate cash payout from me. Second, get married (without me paying) and stay married for 10 years. Get the cash payout plus interest. Third, get married (without me paying), get divorced within 10 years, you get nothing.

The 3rd option needs some fine tuning, but the idea is to encourage either staying single, or stay married…no screwing up yours and his life because you got bored or whatever.

Ok. Then do it.

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Crazy Canuck — Mon, 01 Jun 2015 17:30:54 +0000

She can get married at city hall then have sort of fake wedding at a hall. You can do it pretty cheap and you can even have a pastor to do the ceremony. She sister eloped to get married and just did the ceremony in Toronto where most of my family lives. Depending on the number of people you can do it easily for a few grand.

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RedHeadedStranger — Mon, 01 Jun 2015 17:51:08 +0000

here’s hoping she finds a man who she loves sooo much that she would never allow him to marry.~

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MgtowWave — Mon, 01 Jun 2015 18:20:13 +0000

Women always put expectations of expenses on men.Could it be that their parents teach this to them.?

In Iran fathers are expected to pay everything for their single daughters till they are married.

8 yrs old is a good age to be teaching children personal responsibility.

“Nothing is free little Johnny and Jackie. ”

I remember seeing as a teenager girls having their fathers wrapped around their fingers. How do you think that affects their future relationships?

Traditional expectations on men are null and void now.

Women want their equality and want at the same time all of the old traditional expectations.They want to have their cake and eat it too.

I hope everyone gets the gist of what I am saying. The root of a lot of problems start in the home.

Some day women will wonder why men have Gone Their Own Way

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

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Quiet Thom — Mon, 01 Jun 2015 19:20:21 +0000

Whatever idea you believe is best for you, start beating that drum now and often. That way, she’ll know what to expect. I did not pay for my daughter’s wedding. She knew this because I had always told her that, while I was willing to help a bit, I wouldn’t go into any debt for “her” one special day. Plus, I told her that any one that would spend tens of thousands of dollars for one day is an imbecile. Be frugal and take the money you would have thrown away for the wedding and pay down any debt you have, put a down payment on a house, or whatever. To her credit, she listened to me. For the record, I still think marriage sucks.

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RoyDal — Tue, 02 Jun 2015 09:18:22 +0000

My cousins threw a wedding for their daughter. It cost enough to cover the down payment on a nice house with enough left over to send the happy couple to Hawaii for their honeymoon. They blew it on a party instead.

BTW, they blew up at me when I brought this up. Silly me, I should have expected that.

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sidecar — Tue, 02 Jun 2015 10:01:14 +0000

With the way the marriage rate is tanking (and accelerating downward), I personally wouldn’t worry about it too much.

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narwhal — Tue, 02 Jun 2015 12:22:29 +0000

Not worried about, just idle thinking and a bit of planning ahead. And yes, I know it can be done cheap, but the idea is to find a way to clearly look out for her interest and happiness and not look like a cheap villain.

As for mentally preparing her, I have been pushing her to start taking more and more care of her own needs (my boy too). That and trying to think about situations logically instead of just whatever the societal norm is. That feels like such an up hill battle given all the crap they are feed at school (and some at their mom’s too).

Ok. Then do it.

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Lazarus Long — Tue, 02 Jun 2015 20:12:37 +0000

I definitely support option number 3. This is very similar to how Zappos does hiring for their call center. At each step they offer increasing cash payments to not work there. It is designed to weed out those that are just looking to work long enough to get back on unemployment etc.

Willfully turning aside from the truth is treason to one's self. -Terry Goodkind

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narwhal — Tue, 02 Jun 2015 20:24:10 +0000

They pay cash for you to NOT work there? I’m not following this.

My company provides phantom stock as part of the yearly bonus. You get 25% in 1 year, 25% the next year, and so on for 4 years. Basically, they provide incentive to stay…guaranteed pay instead of the ‘promise’ of a promotion. Of course, I can leave anytime, but I’d be throwing away money.

Ok. Then do it.