Meet him (without her) for a beer, and tell him the truth (weddings make you sick), and you appreciate the offer to be in the wedding, but you can’t.

Whether he remains a friend or not is up to him.

you know i kinda felt the same way you do. Last year in June one of my best friends got married i did all i could as well as my other friend to try and sway him but he swallowed the blue pills and the bottle and wasnt coming back. honestly i didnt want to go it was going to be a f~~~ing headache and as you said awkward for a MGTOW being at a wedding. but i ended up going anyway i was also a groomsman so that was kinda weird too… but because i felt even if he is a blue piller from hell he’s still my friend and couldnt turn my back on him and i made sure i let him know my stance by cracking joking about his slavery. at that point all you can do is shake your head and laugh haha though i’ll admit the wedding for me personally was s~~~ the only thing that made it better was the OPEN BAR!!! where i found myself a seat and parked my ass right there and had drink after drink haha

so i guess you can say you can go and support your friend even though its something you disagree with wholeheartedly and may turn out to be even more s~~~ty for you if there isnt an open bar like i had or you can get with your friend and tell him in person you wont be going and why.

either way there is no right or wrong choice its what you want to do man and do it. i just thought id give you my experience if it helped any

Absolutely not. And why?? Because he will never celebrate my MGTOW life choice.
I didn’t say that out loud, though. This is what I said instead:
“Friends don’t let friends sign marriage contracts”.

After about 20 seconds of pure dumbfounded silence on the other end of the phone, he understood…. and I appended: “I can’t do it man. I can’t watch you do it, and I sure as s~~~ won’t PAY to watch you do it”.

Nobody is EVER going to celebrate your MGTOW life choice. Nobody will register at Tiffany’s and throw a party. Nobody will cross town to attend your “I’m not having a baby shower” (you should hold one annually) and bring you the Bellini baby basket filled with goodies. Nobody is going to FLY to where you live to celebrate your life choice or decision NOT to engage in that emotional masturbation ritual in front of 200 of your friends and family.

Now I don’t know about YOU, but that’s a f~~~ing good reason to tell him NO.

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If you don’t do it, we will. We will contact him and tell him “no” FOR you.

… OH an PS…..

Within 4 months after the wedding, his wife was f~~~ing a greasy unemployed musician on a stolen motorbike who had enough body piercings to hang a shower curtain. He was married for 4 months. Imagine how I felt after I found that out. Imagine how p~~~ed I would be if attended using my well-earned vacation days.

He wasn’t pleased that I wasn’t there, though I think it was because I didn’t send a present.  That was nearly 34 years ago and I only saw him once during that time.  I finally got to meet the cupcake he married.  He was a mangina-in-training when we roomed together but I saw during our last meeting that she had finished the job.  She had him completely wrapped around her finger.

Better him than me.

That’s assuming it’s local.  As @keymaster  points out, if you have to pay to attend, it’s not worth it.  I don’t care how good the sex or the cake is, it’s not worth spending your own money on it.

Is this really a matter of your own personal philosophy vs. your buddy getting married in the general sense, or is it really that you don’t support WHO he is marrying? Do some self-reflection on the root of your objection and when you’ve got it sorted out, give your friend the raw data.

Personally, I attend bachelor parties but not weddings. Simple numbers game. The vast majority of my friends who get married end up as servile little c~~~s, relegated to their basements while their wives and offspring run the house that he pays for. Not all of them, but we’re talking at least 90%. So anticipating the inevitable “I don’t want you hanging around with him anymore”, I view it as a living wake. I’d rather remember my friends as who they are how they want to be, rather than as some broken-spirited farm animal.