Texas Penal Code

Sec. 16.06.  UNLAWFUL INSTALLATION OF TRACKING DEVICE.  (a)  In this section:

(1)  “Electronic or mechanical tracking device” means a device capable of emitting an electronic frequency or other signal that may be used by a person to identify, monitor, or record the location of another person or object.

(2)  “Motor vehicle” has the meaning assigned by Section 501.002, Transportation Code.

(b)  A person commits an offense if the person knowingly installs an electronic or mechanical tracking device on a motor vehicle owned or leased by another person.

(c)  An offense under this section is a Class A misdemeanor.

I get so tired of reading where female infidelity is rationalized as being a fault of the husband; usually stated as the husband failed or wasn’t fulfilling her “needs”; whatever that may entail since I have never yet seen a decent definition of what a woman’s “needs” are. But I am a retired biologist with a long history with women. In my younger days I would have been labeled an Alpha male concealed in an outward Beta persona. My concealed Alpha traits came down to me directly from my mother (a tart, slut, or whore, you name it) and my outward Beta traits came down to me from my father who was an upstanding honorable man with Victorian principles. My mother made my father’s life a living hell, but he stuck it out until all the kids, of doubtful paternity, had grown and moved out, just to see his wife (my mother) cheat one more time and leave him for another man. Her infidelity was always just barely hidden but blatantly obvious to me and my siblings.

I apologize for the foregoing digression but I thought a little of my background was necessary. So back to a comparison between male and female infidelity. I’m not a family or marriage councilor. My expertise in this subject area is based entirely on first hand knowledge of several cases of infidelity in which I have been involved. As I mentioned in a previous post, I have an ability, which I don’t think is in any way unique and probably common among men in general, to be able to walk into a room, filled with couples and within a few minutes, being able to identify right away which women would be susceptible to a flirtatious approach and would willingly cheat on their husbands / boyfriends. They themselves may not know it, and may not be thinking about it, but they exude characteristics of “the type”. You can forget about the dowdy ones. The ones I’m referring to are the chatty ones, the extroverts who are trying just a little to hard; dressed a little too sexy; act a little too animated.

In my experience here is how it all starts; at least this was my modus operandi. Get these women by themselves for less than five minutes private conversation. Even in a crowded room where her husband and everyone else can see her, being in an intimate situation (just you and her) she becomes all ears and eyes. In this semi-intimate situation women change. They want desperately to know if she’s desirable, attractive, and alluring enough for you to want to get her into bed. That’s what she’s looking and listening for. That may be a bit bluntly stated but that is in fact exactly what I have found to be the case. If you talk about fence paint, forget it. If you are looking into her eyes, boobs, and hips, she’s watching. She notices. It’s just fun at this point and she can claim she was just being friendly. What she wants now is verbal confirmation she’s giving you a hard on (at least some sexual impact). She doesn’t want to be thought of as “not sexy”. Her ears are connected directly to her libido. If she hears what she’s looking for, basically that you find her irresistible (alternatively gorgeous, stunning, etc) and would love to have just a taste, she’ll have gotten what she wanted, and more for the moment. Her husband can’t possibly compete with this; it’s just not a thrill or normal practice for a husband to go around trying to seduce his wife. But, rather than the seeds of doubt, at this point the seeds of her fantasies have been sewn. Here is where female infidelity starts getting disgusting. This gets translated into the other man (OM) gave her a compliment; was fulfilling her “needs” which her husband didn’t. It’s never stated that the OM made her horny and she really wanted to know “if he thinks I’m that great what would it be like to f~~~ the guy”.

Doesn’t really matter what the OM was like, she can’t leave it alone in her mind. Because it doesn’t happen to her that often, it’s addicting. She starts fantasizing, and the OM becomes the focus of her fantasies. Of course she’s not going to tell her husband what she feels. All she’ll say is “OH yeah, I had a really good time and that OM is a really nice guy”. She’s not going to tell her husband that she would sure like a tumble in the sack with the OM just to see what it’s like.

Her fantasies turn into what women call emotional infidelity (not real infidelity). Believing the OM finds her desirable, alluring or whatever, she wants more (her “needs”). She wants to try really impressing him. She’ll start planning. If there’s a way to get a repeat accidental meeting with the OM, she’ll push her husband in that direction. But one way or another she’ll find a way. She’ll find a way to get that intimacy again but this time she’ll be going all out to impress the guy. She’ll actually be doing the initiating (even at the getting ready to go out stage) even it it’s the OM that says hello. She knows exactly what’s going on. And this, in my experience, is where contact information is exchanged with the very implicit expectation that she wants more to come. She’ll be quite open about how and when to contact her (“E-mail me at work”, “Call me tomorrow morning after 9:00”). For him, the OM, to stay interested she has to spice up the text messages or the phone calls with promises of excitement. He’ll be doing the same.

Without going into details it is my experience that she’ll be the one to direct the affair from this point onward, arranging rendezvous, setting the time and place, hiding it from her husband, being sneaky, conniving, lying and what have you. The range of human frailties that women will stoop to in hiding their illicit affairs becomes disgusting. And believe me the sex and intrigue is one huge aphrodisiac and that’s what she’s there for. But it will all be justified by tell everyone she was searching for the intimacy she didn’t get from her husband. She has “needs” that her husband didn’t fulfill. What a load of crap.

When the infidelity comes to the surface, it all becomes the husbands fault that she strayed. Oh yeah! She would never say, she just wanted an exciting f~~~ on the side. She’ll call it emotional infidelity and the sex wasn’t important. This is entirely bulls~~~ and an attempt to minimize the significance of her infidelity. But a man would tell it like it is and he’s condemned to committing physical infidelity. He didn’t have any “needs” that his wife wasn’t fulfilling. He didn’t “need” to be complimented, have his ego boosted, felt to be attractive, felt to be desired by other women. No the guy was just plain old horny and couldn’t keep his dick in his pants.

A few hours into the wedding she turns to face me and just starts talking to me.  We chat for about 15 minutes and I think nothing more of it.  As I start talking to my wife she tells me that the woman was interested in me.  I tell her that she is mistaken and she starts telling me about how the woman I was chatting to had deliberately turned her back to her boyfriend and was flirting with me.

Now I realise my wife spotted all of this as she was doing the same thing with other men at the time.   A friend of ours who I had not seen in a year or two spoke to us as we were leaving and told us there was something going on between my wife and I.  He told my wife that if she was cheating on me, he would find the guy and sort him out.  My wife told him that he was being silly and nothing was going on.

He was 100% spot on and like you, I think he can instantly spot the women who are looking for this attention.

I personally think that eventually all women go looking for this attention if they think they can get it.

Now in marriage, this may not be true, but then, I’m not getting married.

It is far better to be an Alpha male (husband) that lets his wife know in no uncertain terms that if she ever strayed or even appeared to have strayed, it would be game over.  No second chance.  The marriage would be over.  And be absolutely clear about this,  In addition he should always let his wife feel that he would cheat on her at any time, with any thing, and any where.  She should always have that feeling of a little insecurity.  The feeling that she dare not trust you for a minute, that she has to keep an eye on you all the time, I think you get what I mean.

I also personally believe that women cheat more than men do, are much better liars, much better at concealing their infidelity, and get away with it far more than men.