MGTOWLife chose to teach me lessons the hard way, and now I am cool with that. – MGTOW https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/feed/ Mon, 08 Jun 2020 13:27:06 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=2.5.14-6684 en-US https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/page/488/#post-9760 <![CDATA[Life chose to teach me lessons the hard way, and now I am cool with that.]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/page/488/#post-9760 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 01:26:35 +0000 gotmybellrung Hey all, enjoy the videos and forum and thought I would formally introduce myself.

I am a small business man at my core I purchased (borrowed) my first business at 22, it was a small party supply company (Tents Tables chairs etc.) despite the relatively short season for that equipment in Canada I always managed to put money away and live quite comfortably in the off season. All that came to an end with the unexpected but completely loved birth of my daughter will call her O. O was born at the end of my business season (early October) and I got to enjoy every minute of her infancy, I took her everywhere for site inspections and minor deliveries and remember being so happy. Then I noticed something, ends were not meeting anymore (financially) I now know why, but at the time of “being in love” it was much more simple than that, bluntly put it was money.

My income was not to her liking and 4 months after we got married she kicked me out. But as the seasons change, so to do the whims of females, and by the next spring we were back together. We “stuck” together and had two handsome boys L1 and L2. but happiness eluded me, by this time around 2007 I had the rental business, had gone back to school to get my A+ certification, worked at a greenhouse and by one of my brothers estimates was working 80 -100 hours a week to keep the wife “relatively” happy. (Never forget, a females happiness is in direct proportion to how much money you make). Fast forward to 2009 and she kicked me out again and immediately when on welfare I was working at Best Buy that off season and still making money off the my rental company and all the computer work I was doing. So why did she kick me to the curb?

Another male, a CAD designer 8 years younger than her, who could blame her right FThat. By November of 2013 we were divorced and she took me to a coffee shop to announce her intentions to move to Calgary with her new boyfriend aka the new ATM, we fought in court for 15 months going back and forth, one justice siding with her the next siding with me. It turned into a complete farce, after all that fighting against her and the bias legal system she won permission to uproot our three kids, rip them from not only my life but both her’s and my family as well.

The most common question I get is why don’t you just move out there? Two reasons:

1. She will fail, she already quit her job and has gotten this poor bastard into allot of debt. If there is one thing the mother of my children is, its a Quitter.

2. All of my business interests/assets are in Ontario for me to shut everything down and start over with basically nothing wont fund my children’s RESP’s (post secondary education savings. Something she has had no interest in doing.

I used to be bitter and angry all the time, but now, I realize I am playing a longer game here. They are 16,11 and 9 and none of them are happy about where they live, the damage she has inflicted on all three of them will scar them for life and whether she will ever realize it or not it irrelevant since I will be there for them no matter what or where they are. Face time, Facebook and texting keeps me in their lives, and allows me to be the loudest voice in their heads. Feeding them with positive messages and love.

If you can relate, or have any feedback or questions feel free to reply.

Warmest Regards,

Gotmybellrung

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/#post-9800 <![CDATA[Reply To: Life chose to teach me lessons the hard way, and now I am cool with that.]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/#post-9800 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 17:45:46 +0000 Dazzle Hello and welcome to mgtow my friend. It is so true what you say, women are in it for what they can get out of a man. I too have a small business and just like you, every time money got tight (4 times that I know of) of she went’ cheating her little heart out, trying to find that better meal ticket! Trouble is once kids come along you’re stuck. You can’t/won’t leave them and so carry on in the hope things will get better. Well good luck and I hope you come through the other end with your kids seeing who the true parent is. You will find this site helpful and supportive I’m sure.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/#post-9860 <![CDATA[Reply To: Life chose to teach me lessons the hard way, and now I am cool with that.]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/#post-9860 Wed, 10 Dec 2014 08:37:22 +0000 Keymaster GotmyBellyRung. Welcome. You were MGHOW of the Day on our homepage! Thanks for joining and telling something about yourself. I have family and sibs in Canada and that is one toxic mess. For me, the world was too big and I went my own way at 18. Getting out made me see it. You’re not alone. Normally I don’t see the point in Facebook or social media to keep a list of 1872657361546256431 “friends” I don’t really care to see or talk to… but you’re making it work to your advantage.

Your kids will be old enough to evaluate your contribution to their lives and realize what you mean to them. The dad always gets appreciated LAST.

Never forget, a females happiness is in direct proportion to how much money you make

I think it’s more accurately put: the more you SPEND ON HER. What you MAKE and SAVE have little to do with it. They are the sex that thinks “credit” is the same as money. Cracks me up when a woman with a $4,000 balance on her visa comes home with a new pair of shoes saying “look what I BOUGHT”…. thinking she “SAVED” 50%”. F~~~ing hell. You would have more success explaining it with Apple slices to a 5 year old.

With points 1 and 2, it Looks like you already know the balance will eventually be restored. It’s just a matter of time. Tick tock. Tick tock. When that day comes and she apologizes… enjoy the f~~~ out of it and forget nothing.

Great hearing from you. Hope to read more whenever you’re inspired… and if things progress, by all means append it here!

Cheers. And welcome to MGTOW.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.
]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/#post-10215 <![CDATA[Reply To: Life chose to teach me lessons the hard way, and now I am cool with that.]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/#post-10215 Sun, 14 Dec 2014 04:02:21 +0000 gotmybellrung Thanks D.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/#post-10219 <![CDATA[Reply To: Life chose to teach me lessons the hard way, and now I am cool with that.]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/#post-10219 Sun, 14 Dec 2014 04:21:39 +0000 gotmybellrung Thanks Keymaster,

Like allot of men I started working at an early age, had the paper route  at 10 until the local grocery store would hire me at 13 as a stock boy, I worked all summer every summer in high school and  have always had money in my pocket. But most interaction with female’s these days leave a bad taste in my mouth (not all female’s). If I were to guess conservatively there are maybe 15-20% women out there, 80-85% are just entitled females looking for a income stream out of a male. Its funny that my 16 year old daughter understands the difference between a female and a woman, and I’ll make sure my two sons are completely versed in the difference.

Its sad in a way, since females are making it nearly impossible to find a “real man” whatever the hell that’s supposed to mean. Also you hit the nail on the head about credit and females, I neglected to mention in my intro,but guess what my ex did two weeks after she kicked me out?…

Filed for bankruptcy, which as you might guess more than one credit account was joint. Perfectly legal is the response I got from my lawyer at the time, b~~~~ kicked again, paid that mess off shortly after she moved out west with the kids.

Any way keep your chin up boys!

Things are never as bad as they seem, nor, are they ever as good as they seem!

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/#post-10251 <![CDATA[Reply To: Life chose to teach me lessons the hard way, and now I am cool with that.]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/life-chose-to-teach-me-lessons-the-hard-way-and-now-i-am-cool-with-that/#post-10251 Sun, 14 Dec 2014 10:57:44 +0000 Deus Ex Machina Welcome Brother!,

(Never forget, a females happiness is in direct proportion to how much money you make).

 

Absolutely goddamn right!, after two years of Marriage, My Ex Wife would only have Sex with me if i brought home a bonus check or OT checks, and sometimes if I got a raise at Work. Nothing like makin the pussy wet with the smell of Fresh Money!. every Female has a scent for it, better then a bloodhound. That seems to be the first thing that comes out of a Woman’s mouth now: “So what kind of work do you do?”.

 

I used to be bitter and angry all the time, but now, I realize I am playing a longer game here.

 

That’s all that Matters, as well as your Kids, It must be tough for them to live with your Ex Wife.

 

Welcome to MGTOW!.

 

 

 

 

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

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