I’ll keep this short. I moved to the US 3 years ago on an exceptional ability visa as I was a pro athlete in England and due to my size I was recruited to play in the NFL 6’11” 395 pounds.

To my dismay I found out that due to the fact that I had not played college ball in the us I had to wait until I turned 23 or 24. I am currently 24.

This wasn’t a big deal to me as I could afford to wait it out as I had saved up plenty from my previous career.

Shortiy after arriving I met my now wife. She was truly stunning, driven, passionate and full of life. We also agreed on everything including marriage and children. Namely that we were open go marriage but not children.

Last September we married and it was the best day of both our lives. However, what I did not know is that upon doing so I terminatwd my visa and thus had to file for a green card. This put me under her control instantly. If she divorced me, seperated from me, got a different address, didn’t show up for my interview, I would get deported. It went to her head immediately. She started treating me like dirt right away, she became an alcoholic and a drug addict but strangely managed to still be razor sharp at work and still look amazing. This gave her a god complex.

Fast forward to February of this year and her parents staged an intervention. It worked and slowly she got back to normal. We had sex for the first time since our wedding night.

In the past we visited a doctor who find us my wife wss unable to get pregnsnt due to a malformed uterus and fiboid tumors.

She was on birth control when we had sex as both of us were very anal about never having children.

Well it happened, she got pregnant.

Her first reaction was to break down crying, saying her life is over then next I said ok we’ll do an abortion, what she had previously agreed upon should she get pregnant. Suddenly, she doesn’t believe in abortion. I say ok adoption, no…she wants to keep it.

This is not the woman I married, the woman I married wouldn’t give up her hopes and dresms and expect me to give up mine for something neither of us want.

She has gone back to treating me like dirt. However, even though she says she doesn’t need me, she does. I give her $4,000 a month. Something I didn’t have a problem with before she started treating me this way. And I need her for the green card.

The Chances of her getting me deported are very slim unless she wants to lose a sure thing each month.

However, my problem is that it is unbearable to live with her. The way she treats me and speaks to me, and honestly I’m not interested in not having sex again until we get divorced.

Mi will have to wait 1 year 7 months until I get the green card before being able to divorce and there’s no way I can live with her that whole time. Unfortunately though, we have to share a home address otherwise I will get deported.

She is not particularly interested in actually having a child so I’m not sure what her motive is here as we live in a state with a max child support allowance of just over $1,000 per month. Hardly a windfall. All of my money is in my dads accounts, and always has been since I was 13. I don’t own them, he is the sole proprietor. So there will be no distribution of wealth and I don’t technically work so the child support will be around $300 a month. Pretty much nothing.

Many ideas or thoughts would be appreciated.

Thank you.

“This is not the woman I married”

Timeframes vary, but the woman you thought you had married vs the thing she becomes are not in the same galaxy. “A man marries a woman and hopes she’ll never change.”      When any of us, myself included, has allowed a woman to convince them to marry her it’s the same as her saying “will you please allow me to throw off my predator cloaking device and BE the true monster that I am?  Well, self pity is  a luxury none of us can afford, so my condolences to all MGTOW brothers who’ve witnessed the decloaking firsthand. Also, “married” forward to today, is whenever one of these predators gets the upper hand from: a key, a load of semen in their mouth that they are putting into a turkey baster, on and on add nausea.

… “will you please allow me to throw off my predator cloaking device and BE the true monster that I am? …

Priceless quote! One for the ages!

And, yes, welcome to the land of free men, we who go our own ways and aspire to let all others do the same. Welcome.

RoyDal wrote:

“will you please allow me to throw off my predator cloaking device and BE the true monster that I am?

This should be a textbook definition of what a feminist really desires in modern marriage.

Do you want to relate to the kid or not?

Are you better off just walking away and burning the lot?

Time for YOU my man. What do YOU want out of this ….  and you know …. f~~~ her …. she’ll be just fine.

Minded, she truly is not the woman I married. Maybe I need to keep saying that to myself. What truly puzzles me about women is, why? Why do they change? Are they actually just unable to handle any type of power at all and ultimately should never have been allowed to gain ‘freedom’ in the liberal sense of the word? I never once saw my mother ever give my father a hard time, not once. And he is a very wealthy man and she could use divorce over his head all day, but yet she never does.

I think giving women too much power is dangerous to society. They’ve nrver befire the 20th century handled power and now it has shifted their way completely and they are completely incapable of handling it.

The only thing my ex every really f~~~ed was my mind, my finances, and my happiness. In the end I have them back, but what a painful learning experience to go through. Take in all you read here, the men have been through the grinder, read their stories, learn from us, and outmaneuver the woman, plan your escape, and leave nothing but rubble and smoke.

I learned to never place my life, trust, or money in the hands of a woman, ever. I do have a GF, we are good together, but I can be alone no problem, and have told her as much. We will never marry, it’s a concept that has long been outdated, and is a form of slavery pure and simple.

Go to the introduction section, and be prepared to be amazed at some of the stuff men on here have survived, most at great personal expense.

Good luck