I am here because I found the site and forum during a disgruntled late night search early this year. I will keep this very brief because if I listed everything in detail we’d all be here a long time. I would classify myself as a red pill married man, I’ve been on the trenches of a most times embattled marriage for 24 years. Now I have been around long enough to know that some MGHOW don’t believe that a married man can truly be MGHOW, but bear with me and maybe you’ll appreciate where I’m coming from.

The reason I’m here and finally posting my intro is because in February after an unexplained sex drought that coincided with a period of increased criticism from my wife I told her that May 1st I was leaving for 60 days to determine whether I was going to stay in the marriage. Many tears and telling the kids later, I found I was absolutely OK with being the bad guy. I didn’t wind up leaving when I said, but that just means that I don’t feel compelled to warn the next time. There’s a lot more to that, but I’ll avoid writing a saga.

The February warning shot is far from the first time that I have been ready to leave. In 2011, when I proudly announced to her that I had submitted my military retirement she instantaneously went cold for over a five month period. During that time I slept very little and she didn’t even come to our bed until I would get up and leave for work most nights. I realized that for a long time I was the only one who “tried” at the marriage and by the end of that time I was absolutely ready for her to drop paperwork. Now, four years later, I only have one child who requires any support from me and I’m still able to walk any day that I decide I’m done with the BS.

When I was a kid, one of my favorite shows was Grizzly Adams and I was disappointed when I grew up enough to know that you couldn’t just head out into the mountains and stake a claim anymore. If that was the case I would have lived my 9 year old dream and lived as a hermit forever, never marrying. At least with a bear as your best friend you know where you stand at all times.

My story is very different from most members here, but I am a pro-active person. If everything goes sideways for the marriage, I’m already on my own path. It’s her that has to figure out how to earn more money than she ever has to continue to support the lifestyle she has grown accustomed to. She may get half, but I can survive on my half quite well.

P.S. Another less important reason for my first post is that today I saw my avatar posted on the wall. I’ve had this avatar for months and nobody had seen it associated with me.

I feel so much for your predicament and totally understand why you say your mgtow.

It must be a nightmare wanting out but yet still trying your best for others.

At least most are free here and I have nothing but administration for you.

I just hope you find a solution and get to live a peaceful life not being chained to others.

Love the avatar ☺

Congratulations on your military retirement, and on starting a new chapter in your life, sir.

I can really empathize with the Grizzly Adams part of your story, more than I can express.

I hope that the journey which you’re embarking on brings you what you seek.

Best regards.

“If everything goes sideways for the marriage, I’m already on my own path”.

Thats how I am, aligning my ducks now for a hasty exit. I’m just a novice in the marriage game so looking forward to learning from your experiences.

posts like that turn me even more certain about marriage. I remember a few years later when I was dreaming about marrying my ex. Absolutely wrong. I don’t know if I’m already a mgtow, there is a lot to be learnt, but brothers like you are just helping me with that.

Enjoy your new life! Cheers!

Your half will double over time, as her half dwindles down to a few bags of cat food.

So you saw a photo on the wall.
This photo is your avatar.
You noticed that nobody payed any attention to you (because of an avatar pic)
One must post for their avatar to be seen, so of course no one would associate it with you, nor does it really matter about what image you choose.
So one of your ‘less important’ reasons for posting, was for attention..which you weren’t getting by doing nothing.
I’m a professional c~~~ punter.
You’re a t~~~.