I’ve also heard research suggesting that excessive dwelling on negative experiences underscores the pain of those experiences and can prevent people from moving past the negative experiences into a more positive future. I think there is a real chance of this happening within a message board like this one as well.

So it’s up to us individually to decide whether we’re in a state where we need to share our experiences as part of the process of accepting them and letting them go or whether we’re just wallowing in self pity and anger. That’s an awareness that each of us needs to come to for ourselves.

Having said all that, I think it’s unrealistic to suggest that we’re going to suddenly not care about females any more and never mention them again. I personally don’t think that’s a particularly healthy or sustainable position, regardless of your personal mindset or experiences. So I’m all for ongoing discussions of females and their actions and ideals, as well as discussions about cars, sports, politics, cooking, art and everything else that’s of interest to men.

If mgtow.com becomes all about female bashing and pickup techniques, those of us who see the broader picture will drift off… so it’s up to each of us to post meaningful content and if a thread gets too bitter and angry, just let it die and the community will police itself.

I’m just starting so it is still a big adjustment, but it is definitely worth the while.  Already feeling more at peace standing up for myself and rejecting the blue pill.  MGTOW sort of equates to non conformist so to list a bunch of philosophies to conform to would be hypocritical.  I get where you are coming from, I suppose reality is a negative place, and feeling down about it is natural.

Wish I had you’re commitment to be able to cut all women out for 10 years, what tips do you have?

I’m focusing on career work money, but still need some hobby interest to take my mind off things at home.

I would say that it honestly is possible to not care about females and never bring it up. Probably not for most people that have already had there life severely altered by them in divorces and having kids, but there are those of us that saw this coming from a early age and avoided all the major pitfalls other than a few failed relationships.

For context, I am 46, never married, no children, self-employed since the age of 18, got a vasectomy at 30 and have had sex with hundreds of different females. So when you talk about seeing this coming and avoiding the major pitfalls, I think I’ve managed that part pretty well. What makes us different, perhaps, is our sex drives. I’m not avoiding female bulls~~~ out of pain but out of a desire to keep my mind clear and focused on my own happiness… part of which is having sex with beautiful females. Your experience is clearly different but I have no interest in avoiding females.

Having said that, I don’t think even a level 4 MGTOW ghost could possibly not care about females and never bring them up unless they literally avoided interaction with females entirely, or deleted the outcomes of those interactions from their memory after the fact. But here’s my point… total avoidance is itself a form of attachment. Show me a man who has zero interaction with and absolutely nothing to say about females and I’ll show you a man who is spending a LOT of time and effort trying to avoid them.

I come to this MGTOW forum to learn, help, and support MGTOW in general – and sometimes vent a bit 😛 i spend on average maybe 30 minutes a day thinking / talking / writing about this stuff, the rest of the time i’m focused on making money / starting up my new business, playing video games, or chillaxin \w friends & family.

When i first came around to MGTOW, i really needed to vent, was quite focused on women / mgtow, but after i found the answers that i needed, things started to settle down.

I suspect your in a near by boat; just give it some time, find your answers, create your own MGTOW view, and lastly live life the way that you want to.
You may want to have nothing to do \w MGTOW, you may just want to obsesses over it 24/7, or you may just decide to lurk on the forums every once in a while to show your support and to learn something new 🙂

Becoming MGTOW is sort of similar to the 5 stages of grieving 😛 After all, we all lost our belief, hopes and trust in women 😛

One thing I find useful is to read self help/positive thinking books which are old, from before the modern obsession with romantic relationships as the solution to all ills. The Victorians, I think, had a more realistic (not necessarily healthy, though) attitude to marriage etc. They knew ‘self fulfillment’ doesn’t come from a relationship with a woman, it comes from self-knowledge, and a relationship with God (as you understand Him) or, if you don’t like religion, a belief in a higher philosophical power.

I come to this MGTOW forum to learn, help, and support MGTOW in general – and sometimes vent a bit i spend on average maybe 30 minutes a day thinking / talking / writing about this stuff, the rest of the time i’m focused on making money / starting up my new business, playing video games, or chillaxin \w friends & family.

Took the words right outta My Mouth Bud. It’s important to have an active personal life, both mentally and physically.  I do Ocean activity, motorcycle riding, hiking as well as Carpentry,  having fun and enjoying life, reading tons of books, Listening to old Vinyl, traveling to new places. If I didn’t, I’d go nuts – Take it from Me Bro, Women will drive you nuts no matter what.

Which is why it’s important not to let it bother you.

I come here because I want to help the next guy. Everyone of these guys have something to offer, as well as a great personal story, or experience.  This place, is also operated by a pretty solid dude, that dude is Keymaster. Not to brag, but the knowledge that Guy drops is pretty damn amazing in My opinion, and useful – Which is why I enjoy this site, it’s operated the right way.

I’ve been to other MGTOW forums, which are good in their own right. But here, I notice Men share a lot more about some deep, VERY deep personal experiences as well as past relationships. I was in an abusive Marriage, I was stabbed with scissors and a knife on separate occasions, I was punched repeatedly once while sleeping, not only that but $20,000+ was stolen from my personal bank account (money I worked My ass off for), given to My Wife’s Lover, yeah talk about never trusting Women again.

I couldn’t tell My Family or My Friends, could they understand?, No they couldn’t. Why not?, because they’ve never been through it, they don’t know what it’s like to be with a complete nut case. A vast majority of my Male friends have been alienated from Me by their Wives because I’m a “Threat”, (an actual quote told to Me by a long time friend, from His wife), not only that but I was told:

“And you’re not allowed to speak to My Husband ever again“.

Why?, the Married Female sees us as a negative influence over their slave (Husband), Married Females HATE us with a passion – Seeing us free, no women, no kids, just living FOR US!.
I see My Married buddies working a job they hate, stressed out beyond belief, pleasing a Wife who doesn’t give two s~~~s and will probably end up cheating, getting Vaginamony, and their Kids being raised by some asshole step-father.

You have Faith in Christianity, that’s good Bro. Stay close to the good Book, read it, study it. Survival skills?, that’s fricken awesome dude!, useful as well!. Animals are more loyal then Women, believe me.  It boils down to what makes YOU happy. MGTOW is about going deep within oneself, pulling out the strengths and killing the weaknesses.  I know that sounds kinda Zen like, But it’s true. Since I’ve been here hashing things out?, I feel great because it was boiling inside of Me for a very long time. I don’t have to pay a therapist an ungodly amount of money, and told to take pills I don’t need to treat “Depression”. All I need is Red Pill.

I wish you the best, Bud. Stay strong and focused.