I need some real advice. I am not sure what to do to be honest and i’m sure you all have been down this road before. We all know that anything involving a woman is toxic and bad for your health (besides simply getting laid and moving on of course), but I have a problem. I am able to blow off and ignore pretty much all women………. except one.

There’s thick chick that lives a few apartments down from me and for some reason I just have this damn soft spot for her that I can’t seem to get rid of. We started hanging out like 6 months ago and became good friends quick. I really liked the person she was, she was very physically attractive and always very nice and complimenting to me. She also never expected me to pay for anything and actually tried to pay for me on multiple occasions when we would go out/hang out and would provide the food at the end of a night of drinking too (one night alone, she spent over $100 out of her own pocket on us).  I spent the night at her house many times and by my choice didn’t sleep with her because A) My overwhelming disgust for women was more of a turn off than her a turn on and B) I didn’t want to risk growing any stronger feelings for her because thats simply asking for trouble.

I thought I was out of the woods because I kept my distance for a few weeks, but I ran into her again last night and I quickly realized I still have that damn soft spot… What do I do and how do I make this go away?

Personally, I’ve learned to save the soft spot for cats, dogs, and the deer, raccoons, birds, foxes and other wildlife that run around my property.  None of them will drag me thru the mud.  Thick chick will get you muddy, remember that. It’s just a matter of time, so direct that soft spot at something that deserves it and not at some woman that will abuse it.

1) crazy -> you
2) crazy -> landlord -> you
3) crazy -> legal system -> you

1 – Physical proximity in the same building cannot be to your advantage. Shared laundry facilities would be a possible vector for a bleach attack upon your clothes.

2 – This is a special case of (3), but can be particularly troublesome as it could result in eviction and a refusal to provide favourable references to the next landlord. Lease agreements have all kinds of “catch-all” provisions in there, and the courts are known to favour landlords.

3 – Restraining orders are handed out like candy. If one is granted, you would have to move from the building. One could be held liable for rent for what is left of the lease in addition to any utilities.

Conclusion – I would advise against anything more serious than a peck on the cheek. Blowing one’s load a few times is not worth playing with fire.

Ignore all my BS above, study this site, pretend a friend is coming to you for advice…….what would you tell him?  that is what you need to tell yourself. it’s not easy, but you’ll get better results than asking someone else. If you want a job done right…….you’ve got to do it yourself. If I ‘give’ you the answer it will carry no weight.       actually, I wrote out the answer and then deleted it.           Best wishes.  In any tough decision, keep gathering information and data and sooner or later the answer will come through loudly and clearly to you.

The point is, the only way it will go,is down, from here.

P.s. your little crush, probably already knows you have a thing for her, and ready to use you, for whatever her heart desires.

after a couple of months it will be “its silly we have 2 apartments and only spend time in one, why not let yours go and move in here” then your f~~~ed, theres no unicorn, no perfect matches anymore, only timebombs with varied fuses

And I am sure she probably already does know about my interest and will be ready and willing to use that to her advantage anytime I let it happen because again, thats just how they all are.

Appreciate your help!

I have never had any real trouble, I always have one foot out the door. There is always an exit strategy. Do not, repeat, do not ignore the red flags…lol.