I feel cowardly just dodging her calls, especially because when we were together it was hot and passionate, but the long distance and time, mixed with her only being partially loving has dreged up scary childhood subconscious trauma.  How can I end this, when I am well aware I feel to weak to face her on the phone and say it?  Especially when my emotionally side still wants to stay ‘some attention better than no attention’…

thanks guys…

Because we are now all touchy feely and soft as f~~~ …. we feel bad about everything. It’s nonsense.

Do what you must do …. and live with it. There is no other way my friend.

End the misery for you both. You can be nice about it … but also be firm.

Sometimes you just gotta go do it and stop dithering. Then live with it.

But, you could always broach the topic logically and try to reason with her. I don’t recommend this method though since there is no end to it.

Thanks bullet dodger!!!

You’ve just got to step up and get it over with.

I mean no insult when I say that she seems to have you a bit cowed.  I only say that to offer a suggestion to overcome it if that is the case.  Take some time alone and play over how the conversation will go in your head.  Try to think of the worst things she could do or say and think of the proper way to respond to them.  Then when you finally make that call nothing she can spit at you will be as bad as what you were already prepared for.

Personally,  I would just say; “Hello _____.  Just calling to let you know that this doesn’t work for me anymore.  I have already fully considered my situation and there is nothing you can do to change my mind.  It’s over. –click–”

Just that.  Don’t apologize or she will see it as a sign that she can guilt trip you into submission.

It may sound heartless but its fast and simple and gets the point across.  I find the ole’ KISS acronym applies well to most things in life.

I feel cowardly just dodging her calls

I often think MOST men have this very feeling. We assume we are being “cowards” when we dont want to face womens scorn directly…High pitched, irrational screaming, zero logic, an emotional display on a parade, guilt tripping, etc. Etc. How many times have you seen men simply shut their mouths, look away in the distance, frowning like a child at the very INSTANCE of a woman pulling this s~~~? I even see it on the news, if a woman anchor is debating with a man. The SECOND her screaching voice begins, the man will look away rather than debate the way he would if it was a man. It is NOT cowardice, in my opinion. Its a combination of the way weve been trained to “respect” women, and the fact that you KNOW you cant have a rational debate with an angry emotional woman.

If you think you have “care taker issues” buy a dog.

* A clean wound from a sharp knife. There will be bleeding but no infection or pus. It will heal quickly with little scarring.

* A deep bruise wound, constantly being reopened and hit with blunt trauma. It may never heal, but there will be pustulent infection, and perhaps blood poisoning.