MGTOWHow do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?! – MGTOW https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/feed/ Mon, 08 Jun 2020 21:27:23 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=2.5.14-6684 en-US https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/page/482/#post-10832 <![CDATA[How do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?!]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/page/482/#post-10832 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 23:21:38 +0000 TYE I have long contemplated cutting my mother off completely, and giving her the it’s not you it’s me line, but would I be wrong for doing this i’m sure my mother is no different from you alls. How do you maintain a healthy relationship with a being thats the total opposite of you morally we don’t agree in politics(shes liberal i’m very conservative),shes feminist (although she doesn’t consider herself one she fits all the characteristics), she has been divorced 3 times, shes lazy, and the list goes on for days. I want to honestly give her a nice gift, and just…you know go my own way…is this wrong?!

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10836 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?!]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10836 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 00:16:05 +0000 jambear Being a MGTOW and having a relationship with your mother makes it complicated depending on the nature of your relationship with her.

If it was a toxic upbringing rife with abuse and tears, then run as fast as you can and never look back.

If it has been a pleasant enough relationship then even being a MGHOW you can keep contact with her. This is what I have with my Mom. She did not do anything particularly bad with me, so I see no point in punishing her for what other woman have done to me. Now why do I not treat all woman as a blank slate and not project past wrongs from other woman onto them? Because my mother raised me and provided me with the best care she could so she gets a mulligan every other woman has to work for it πŸ˜›

You sound like you are in the middle leaning towards a pleasant relationship. I personally would not sever the relationship quite yet especially over something like politics or even being a feminist. Reason being is that I promise you your political views will change over time and your mothers will most likely remain the same and you could end up on the same side of the spectrum one day, you never know. As for her being a feminist she is more then likely a 2nd wave feminist ( though I do not know your mother if this is not the case ignore this part) and these are easy enough to get along with, as they tend to respect your need for freedom and space more often then not. Even if they do not agree with your stance on relationships.

I happen to have a soft spot when it comes to mothers. And every situation is different so all my advice amounts to so many useless words in analyzing your situation an what you should do. All I am saying I guess is when it comes to your mother take extra care in choosing what you want to do and act form the heart and the mind.

 

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10837 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?!]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10837 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 00:34:49 +0000 Stargazer I cut off both my adopted and biological mothers when I realized that they were just people and not very good ones at that. This isn’t just a MGTOW thing, it’s a human thing… I don’t want to have s~~~ty people in my life. They both dominated their husbands and the rest of their families, sought out and created unnecessary drama, were obsessive about money, status and their personal images… I could go on.

In the end I asked myself “If these people were total strangers, would I introduce myself to them and invite them into my life? Would I call them once a week and talk to them or spend my weekends and holidays with them? No and no. Done. I don’t owe them anything and they’ve done everything for me (and TO me) that they are going to so I just walked. Basically I just told them both “I don’t think maintaining a relationship with you is contributing to my health and well being so don’t call me and I won’t call you.”

I’m not particularly prone to guilt or regret so I’ve looked forward from those points and have been quite happy ever since. I don’t even know where they are or what they’re up to and when they die, I won’t care. Simple as that.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10856 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?!]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10856 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 06:43:26 +0000 flamesabers I second what others have already said. If you have a toxic relationship with your mother, it’s probably best to sever ties with her. However, if you have a decent relationship with her and she’s not trying to syphon money from you or berating you for following the MGTOW path, I don’t think there’s a particular compelling reason to end your relationship with her. If you enjoy spending time with her, I suggest continuing to do so.

I would say I have a healthy relationship with my mom and I think it’s in part because of some unwritten rules we both adhere to. One, we both acknowledge our differences and realize no amount of persuasion is going to change the other’s mind. (It’s not politics that’s so much an issue of debate but religion). The other thing is even though our biological relationship as mother/son is immutable, she fully recognizes I’m not a child anymore. Out of my two siblings and I, it’s me that spends the most time with her by a long shot. She knows what it’s like to have limited or non-existent communication with her other adult children, so I think she’s all the more appreciative that I make time in my life for her. As much as it pains her for me to be an atheist while she is a bible-believing Christian, I think she values having me in her life even more.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10864 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?!]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10864 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 08:11:05 +0000 JollyMisanthrope Just because it’s your mother doesn’t mean you can’t put her in her place if she is out of line. My mom will still nag me from time to time and I have to tell her to knock it the hell off because it’s the one thing that will get me p~~~ed off almost more than anything else. If you let them repeat behavior patterns around you that you don’t like, you have to break that cycle by being vocal about it.

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]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10865 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?!]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10865 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 08:23:49 +0000 I cut off my adopted and biological mothers for the same reason as doc. About three years ago. Life dramatically improved.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10888 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?!]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10888 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 10:33:39 +0000 Mjolnir My entire family was toxic, cut all contacts with everyone and that was the time my life started improving big time. It’s stupid to cut contact just for political reasons. It’s family after all, if there were abuse involved then I understand. A family should be a supportive unit, not something which tears you down.

How to have a healthy relationship? All healthy relationships starts with having good boundries between what is you and what is the other person, what behavior is tolerated and which isn’t. If a person doesn’t respect this, then there is no point in having a relationship, because either they don’t respect you or they don’t have any boundries themselves.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10934 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?!]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10934 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 16:00:29 +0000 TYE Well my mother is verbally abusive, and she is Christian…not regular Christian either i’m talking crusader cross painted on the chest ready to die Christian, but she doesn’t respect that i’m not. She constantly tells me that I believe in God after I have told her repeatedly I don’t, she is the biggest naive idiot in existence. I told her i’m MGTOW, and she constantly gives me that “You will fall in love”, or “you haven’t experienced love yet” bull s~~~. I have seen her emotionally, and financially destroy enough men to know what love is…toxic venom that drains life from men. No matter what I tell her my views are she completely ignores them, and tells me I believe what she believes, but I just don’t know it yet…like are you serious?! The majority of her day is spent yelling up a storm, and it’s always on the phone I have asked her to give me copies of stuff I need social security card, drivers license, original copy of my birth certificate, etc. She continues to procrastinate instead of getting me what I need to get the hell away from her, then when I confront her about trying to keep me tied to her she screams up a storm, and tells me I WANT YOU TO GO…WALK OUT THE DOOR AND GO! She knows she has stuff I require to start my life, and if she keeps playing with me i’m afraid s~~~ is going to hit the fan and someone is going to get hurt….

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10959 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?!]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10959 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 18:42:36 +0000 jambear I see. Then disregard what I said before and

As for your drivers official documents while it isΒ  hard and time consuming to get new copies of your original birth certificate, social security card, and drivers license it is possible, just something to keep in mind. I would start looking into how you could go about doing this in your particular state as the procedures vary. Also make friends with the mail man and request everything addressed to you does not make it into the hands of your mother or ask the post office directly to hold all your mail and you will pick it up personally or get a P.O box as you will not want your mother knowing what you are doing.

The best way is to get your originals from your mother though. Since they are legally yours she has no right to hold onto them. I would contact your local police department and get instructions on how to get her to give them to you. Even if you are still a minor they are legally your property. God speed and report any changes in your situation. πŸ™‚

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10969 <![CDATA[Reply To: How do you keep a healthy relationship with your mother?!]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/how-do-you-keep-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother/#post-10969 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 19:41:07 +0000 RoyDal You need those documents! jambear’s advice is good. I also suggest visit the local recruiting office now and ask them for suggestions. Surely they have encountered this situation many times in the past.

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