This is my first post but likely my last one here also. I will be reading here occasionally for reinforcements though.

I am very grateful to MGTOW. It has been a good stepping stone to where I will be going. I am going my own way but it is likely pretty different than many of you here. The one thing that I have in common with most if not all of you is that I will never marry. And I thank you for that.

Instead of minimizing my interaction with women, or avoiding them altogether, I will be going Alpha, and I mean that I am going to transform myself at the core of my being. I have been hardcore blue pill my whole life, fortunate enough to have never married or been a father to this point. However I was damaged and submitted to being a hardcore blue pill beta because I was adopted into a household where the stepmom was the Alpha (and likely a closet feminist) and the father was a Beta. Since I was adopted and not his real progeny, my father let her do as she wished to me. I was abused and emasculated by the cruel stepmom, and ignored by the father.

Directly because of MGTOW, I am waking up and putting aside my blue pill ways. I have discovered much here at MGTOW.com over the last few weeks and I have also read a lot of supporting material on other sites. In addition to many many threads here,  I have read The Manipulated Man and the misandry bubble blog and googled such terms as AWALT, NAWALT, Misandry, hypergamy, cuckold, MGTOW, herbivores, lonely feminist, alpha, AF/BB, game, PUA, polygamy, feminine imperative, theories on reproductive strategy, and have read countless stories outlining normative female behavior in today’s social and legal environment. The blinders are now the whole way off. More than anything the new knowledge has allowed me to begin to reframe. Now after a lifetime of being mostly psychologically beat down into a beta, I wish to reframe to become an Alpha.

But what does an Alpha mean? What is the most alpha thing I could possibly do? How about contribute to save humanity from it’s most destructive wiles, even if it means sacrificing my greatest desires.

Firstly I want to contribute in order to make society better! I still want to be the best man possible, and help others rather than fade away and just satisfy myself. I mean to create a movement, and not to lead it, but to be a large influence. I do not seek power but great influence to help others find their own way. And if the movement that I want to start already exists I hope someone points out to me what it is, because I will join it and allow myself to be influenced. These are the things I want to center the movement around.

I am reborn Alpha and will rise anew like a Phoenix.

As a male my frame will be Alpha and I will seek ways to become more Alpha, and help other to do the same.

I have the right and the obligation of self determination.

I will avoid dishonorable conduct.

I will defend my honor as a man.

I will improve understanding and relations between men and women.

I personally will sacrifice the ideal of having a sexual relationship and reproducing to strive towards the end goal of improving humanity (but will accept these things if the conditions are right. Having a woman and children under my authority is an option but not a goal, and certainly not anything worth pursuing in the early stages of becoming a real man. I may change this particular goal after reframing.)

Becoming Alpha is a journey, not a destination

Becoming Alpha does not necessarily mean doing what other typical Alphas do (sleeping around with the new found power just because you can seems to be a waste of life energy.)

I have adopted “the 4 agreements” as a starting point. This comes from ancient Toltec wisdom and though it is not a religion it is spiritual and tied to my spiritual development (there is a book called the 4 agreements but you can also google it.)

1) Be impeccable with my word

2) Don’t take anything personally

3) Don’t make assumptions

4) Always do my best

There is a 5th agreement also which I have not gotten to, and a few other things that I want to add for my own spiritual growth, that I will detail in my own separate blog.

I have studied many esoteric things and have adopted some and denied others. I believe that these 4 agreements can be ‘A’ basis for reframing myself to go alpha. I hope that the wisdom I have cultivated helps me so that I can help others, and I mean both men and women. I wish for society to improve and for good to increase while evil decreases. I will be starting a blog on my journey. I hope it eventually becomes a worldwide success, but even if it only helps one other person besides me I will consider it a success. I do not wish to name the blog as I do not wish to be in direct competition with this fine website, but I will leave a clue on my new blog. I will mention Purple Hayes, and if the blog ever becomes popular you will know that I have been here and have been influenced in a positive way from this MGTOW site. I chose the name Purple Hayes because I believe that the truth is likely somewhere between some of the extremes put forth by the red pill, and the extreme prevalence of blue pill in our current society, thus purple, yet I admit that I am still in a bit of a haze about the best course of action. The only two things I am sure of is to go Alpha, and to not marry. I believe I will discover the rest as I need to as long as I am actively seeking and being.

What I wish to do is a very tall order, but I risk or sacrifice nothing but time and energy to make it happen.

Wish me luck and may society improve!

Thank you MGTOW!

Purple Hayes

Study The Mayor Of Mgtown and his amazing work.

Also with the going Alpha. Just be wary of going so far you forget who you are. Just centre and check regularly.

Will look out for you in the future.

Have a shot at it, do PUA stuff, work on your game, f~~~ acceptable-fatties too.

In the end, the female that will fullfill you and your family is a thing of the past.

If you can find it, you might as well win the lottery.

This based on average sucess rate of marriages.

I have the right and the obligation of self determination. I will avoid dishonorable conduct.

I think these are great ideals for MGTOW in general

PurpleHayes wrote:

I will defend my honor as a man. I will improve understanding and relations between men and women.

I don’t think anyone has to prove anything to any man or woman about ourselves.
And after a lifetime of experience, and watching women around me and how they treat men, then reading those books and a whole lot more, I don’t think I want or need to have any type of relationship with women. I don’t wish them any harm though. I honestly hope they all get the mangina or white knight they crave and enjoy grinding him down one thousandth of an inch every day of his life till he mercifully stops breathing.
You sound like you’re an inspired guy. Thanks for sharing your views.

Good luck with the rat race.