“Are you keeping score?”

She had used it on several occasions when I wanted to do something and she didn’t want to.

For example, not wanting to go out for supper with my friends, even though we had gone out for supper with her friends multiple times.

When I asked “I have no problem doing what you want to do, why don’t you want to do anything I would like to do?”, her response was always “Are you keeping score?”

I’m sure it was a tactic to guilt/shame me, but I simply reversed it on her.

I would ask “Are you?”, she would respond “No”, and I would reply “Then why did you bring it up?”

If she complained “you should do this”, or “so-and-so did this”, I would ask “are YOU keeping score?”

Her “No”, and my reply of “Then why did you bring it up?” usually ended the complaining (and started the pouting)

Once you hear that it’s time to put a smile on your face, grab a cold, put on the game, put your feet up cause you won!