The name is Miles.

I’ll keep this short.

Partner dumped me this morning, ensuing emotional trauma was to be expected, out of the blue, didn’t see it coming, basically cam down to her saying I’m perfect and loving and so good to be with, but I’m not the one for her and she hopes I find the one.

Partner has a daughter, 4 years old, we are very close, says I cannot say goodbye, basically need to grab my stuff and go.

I’ve always been supportive and loving. I changed a lot from how I used to be, used to be a bit of a free spirit, travelling around writing my lit and exploring the world, ex Navy, engineering background, rode with motorcycle clubs etc. Anyway, I was cut up about it, hurt like nothing I’ve felt as I really did love this woman, but then something clicked in me…or more aptly broke.

I’m sick of the bulls~~~, the mind games, the falsities and pressures of having to have a gf and be a “good man”. I can’t be screwed anymore, I’m gonna focus on my stuff and earning money so I can get back to travelling, seeing the world and having cool, fun experiences.

I guess the hard thing is adjusting to solo life again. Everything feels a bit vacant.

Anyway,

Hi.

I’m new as well. Been through a lot of bulls~~~ with women over my life. Been mistreated, abused and always thought I was the one in the wrong. Not till I broke up with some crazy bitch who was abusive, manipulative, psychotic, suicidal, narcissistic ( enter any adjective ) that i finally found the light. I realized I was never in the wrong but she was.  I found my worth, found who I was and continued my path towards my career.

Luckily I have some good mates, ones ex spec ops, the other is in the tech industry with me, both are MGTOW as hell and are gonna be keeping my spirits up tonight.

I guess If I am being honest, what I don’t understand is the lack of logic. As a man of reason, there appears to be no sound rationale to her decision and as such, I am so confused with what occurred this morning. If there was a rational structure to why we split, I would not be so p~~~ed off. In the end, I’m better off.

Now I can spend money on my s~~~, like some new suits, a humidor for my cigars and saving up for travelling.

Women primarily think with their emotions and reason with their feelings, especially with things that are very important or heartfelt.  When you grasp that fundamental truth female behavior starts to make more logical sense.

If something feels right to them (like shacking up with a PUA) they will believe it IS right in the same way you believe in something when you use logic and reason to arrive at a conclusion.  Likewise, when you find out and call out her behavior she will argue because her feelings tell her what she did made sense.  Now, she doesn’t completely lack logic and her mind may be telling her in the background that you are right but as long as she is angry enough with you that “reason” will let her “conclude” that you are wrong (more so than she is right).

In a heated argument, if she feels afraid, she will believe you are going to hurt her (and tell others that) even if that has never happened before and you don’t ever do those sorts of things elsewhere.

I can come up with example after example but the important thing is to stop thinking women primarily do or say what “makes sense”.  Obviously they can at times be logical and use real logic, but the likelihood of her resorting to emotional logic are directly proportional to the nature and intensity of her feelings.  And you can help the situation by not losing control of your emotions but if she gets emotional it may not matter much.

Another basic truth is that women tend to base policy (their usual approach to situations) on the exception, not the rule.  For example, if your wife catches your son getting high every now and then she will fearful and worried and flip out, think his life is ruined, and change the house rules around it.  Instead, she should be thankful he is generally a great guy, has decent friends, gets reasonable grades, works hard, helps around the house, etc and respond accordingly (yes, that was my personal experience) by having a talk and discussing it rationally with him.  That is the way most  men would respond but their wife jumps in and subverts his authority.

When women got the right to vote this paradigm flooded into politics.  Hell, even our military policy and rules of engagement have been corrupted by this.  So we focus much effort in wartime on minimizing collateral civilian damage (the exception) instead of realizing it is not that extensive and is a part of war (the norm) and letting our military kick ass like only they can.

Lots of other govt policy (welfare, discrimination, police brutality, etc) is based on dealing with the exception as well.  Wasn’t that way in the 1800s and before.

If you have or know some children the above patterns will look familiar to you.  Yes, women on average can be just grown-up children.

Keep strong and lean on ‘male’ friends.

Read & educate yourself. Knowledge is power & you’re gonna need that to help keep the red pill down. It’s gonna taste bitter for a while.

The sun will shine again for you bro. It will be warmer & brighter.

I hope you speed through this & know help is here. Share with us if you’re getting down. We’ve a lot of experience a may just lighten the load a little.

Take care man