I’ve been divorced a full decade. In true Beta fashion, I thought my new post-divorce goal in life was to find a true “soulmate” and do it right this time. Game was my means to that end. Last year, I declared “victory” and got engaged. But months later, I discovered Rollo, Roosh, and Roissey. I couldn’t stay away because the truth of the Red Pill was inescapable. I cannot describe how bitter and painfully it all went down. Eventually, I reached a point of acceptance. With that came the understanding that AWALT, even my fiance. I now know deep down that I just cannot go through with it.

I honestly don’t know how or when I’ll break the news to her or deal with the s~~~storm that’s sure to follow.  I’m now in my 50s, and cannot see myself plate spinning for the rest of my days on earth. Even so, a future alone sounds more rewarding than the depressing reality of marriage. I’d appreciate any advice you guys may be able to offer about how to stay sane in the days following the blowout… and how you’ve found contentment in the afterlife.

I cannot speak for anyone else but having a couple of good friends is what pulled me through the years after my divorce when I started to go red pill. Start finding those old hobbies you enjoyed and get out there and do them or create new hobbies. I must say that in my case the Red Pill was actually a relief instead of bitter and finding this place where I could really be myself without worrying what anyone thinks about my choices and the support that everyone has shown really helped. As for breaking it off there are a lot of threads on that in the forum area but from what I have seen the consensus is to simply state the facts and walk away. Do not even wait to hear what they have to say just speak your piece and walk or run as the case may require.

How she response to you breaking off the engagement is all you need to know about her.  You don’t need to say “I can’t stand YOU.”  You just need to say “I don’t think marriage is for me.”

If she takes it well, you can have a good relationship with her as an MGHOW.   No need to get the government involved.

At your age, the manipulative bulls~~~ of marriage, female privilege, etc, should be dissipating.  Older women CAN be absolutely as cool as older men.  They lose their periods, they stop trying to control you with the promise of kids and hot sex, and they start actually f~~~ing cooperating.

<span style=”font-family: ‘Open Sans’, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; background-color: #fbfbfb;”>At your age, the manipulative bulls~~~ of marriage, female privilege, etc, should be dissipating.  Older women CAN be absolutely as cool as older men.  They lose their periods, they stop trying to control you with the promise of kids and hot sex, and they start actually f~~~ing cooperating.</span>

Thanks for providing that glimmer of hope. She has often said “maybe marriage isn’t the best/only way to continue what we have.” My former blue pill beta chump self has always tried to say otherwise, out of some misplaced sense of honor and “marriage is mature.” Wish I had found the Red Pill about a year ago before getting engaged. Her reaction may not cause a s~~~storm. But if it does, better to find out now!

If you want a specific example, imagine planning a vacation. You get to pick where you want to go, how you want to get there, you don’t have to coordinate time off from work with anyone else or their boss, when you get there you can do what you want to do without having to go antiquing or to a wine tasting or crap like that (but by all means, if that’s your thing), you can spend all that time that you’d normally be expected to focus all of your attention and resources on her on meeting locals and finding out the really cool stuff, and you only have to carry your own luggage instead of yours + the tons of superfluous crap she packed. Then when you get back home, you actually feel like you went on a vacation. Try it, it’s freakin’ awesome.

Let me tell you I broke off my engagement 13 yrs ago and it’s the best decision I ever made in my godamn life.  I’m going to warn you she will probably be a blubbering mess when you hit her with the news, but don’t give in! YOU CAN DO IT. You won’t regret it trust me..

You aren’t married. Consider the alternative of procrastinating, getting married, and THEN knowing that you knew this ‘all along.’

Try to communicate that you’re not the one for her.  Then, she will know this, but she only be thinking ahead to endgame, when she royally effs you over and for you all that’s left is regret.